The Ego Can Ruin a Mans Chances of Finding True Love



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I went to the barber shop with my friend today and immediately there was this one barber whose ego seemed to be bigger than all three of us combined. The first thing he asks is was I married; well he actually asked us how we were doing first as if he REALLY cared. Upon my answer he went on to say well you’re a very beautiful black lady and you’re not married? There is something wrong with that! What’s wrong? I told him I don’t think it’s something wrong it just hasn’t happened for me yet. I’m a non-confrontational type of lady but if you push my buttons I can become a pit bull! I'd remembered him from a while back when he tried to hit on me at Walmart and we talked briefly until I realized what a moron he was.

He still insisted something was wrong and asked me my age and I told him and asked him his age. He told me then I asked him if he was married and of-coarse I got no answer and he avoided the question probably because he was clearly NOT married. I guess it’s okay for him to be single and unmarried, but there is no way a woman like me can be single without there being a problem with me. He then asked, “How much money he gotta make? As if my being single has anything to do with a man not making a certain amount of money for me to be with him.“ I was appalled because I know firsthand that I don’t judge a guy by how much money he makes I go by the way he treats me. While there is nothing wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and wanting more than some men can offer, that’s not the way I determine a man’s value or worth. That’s not the way I determine anyone’s value or worth to be frank.

This know it all then proceeded to ask my friend if she was married and she too said no. He then said what’s wrong? You’re a beautiful black woman and not married? As he stood there 44 years old with no ring on his finger either by the way. Now after just speaking to him for the short time I did, I didn’t NEED to ask him why he’s single because his egotistical mentality already answered the question for me. To sum it up, he’ s a self-inflated ego having jerk who has to be-little and down grade others to compensate for his own short comings because he’s insecure and wants to feel important.


This guy obviously has issues and he has nothing better to do with his time than to try to make others feel bad.
In today’s world where women are available three to one man or higher, the fact that our selection of intelligent men are limited to those who are close-minded, self-centered and so busy analyzing all the females to the point of totally turning us off. This guy was literally pointing his finger at us as being the reason we’re both not married. There is no way it’s the men that’s the problem many times right? I personally can’t stand a know it all man who feels his way is always right and if you don’t agree YOU’RE the problem. This all started from my god son needing a simple haircut and me walking in with a beautiful a smile. Now who really has the problem me or him?


Now this isn’t for the men who know how to love and embrace a female and not appoint blame on her inability to fine a husband for whatever reason but this is for those guys who think they got all the answers just as single as ever themselves. It’s time to grow up and stop spreading the negative energy and degrading women. No I don’t have to settle and neither do you but if you share the same issues why not join forces with the female and together find that middle ground that might lead to a healthy fulfilling relationship. Stop being a freaking jerk already! No it’s NOT attractive!



Things men should never do:


1. Act like a know it all and be-little a females character because you think you can. I personally find it disturbing that a man would be ready to attack even perfectly innocent strangers to prove his immature point.

2. Asking why a female isn’t married and saying SHE has a problem when you aren’t even married yourself. Need I say more?

3. Asking a female on a date after you’ve just insulted her. Yes this jerk asked my friend out after he’d said she and I must have a problem and there must be something wrong with us since we aren’t married.

4. Be defensive instead of charming. How can you get a woman if you’re running them all away with attacks? Save the drama for your baby’s mama!

5. Have something to say to every female that crosses your path. Because of your need to feel important, you tend to throw things out there trying to make women feel uncomfortable and inadequate. This is more than likely because you and this phony confidence you try to display isn’t the real you. The real you actually feels uncomfortable and inadequate as well. Is there a reason you don’t ask the men in the barbershop why they aren’t married considering none of the four of you had wedding rings.

I just had to get this out. Thanks for stopping by.