7 Reasons Men Just Disappear

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To start off yes I speak from experience. I didn't want to give you this story book introduction or share intimate details about my own personal ordeal so I'm going to just stick to the subject which is; "7 Reasons Men Just Disappear!" Isn't that why you came here? :) Believe it or not men do have reasons for why they do what they do. Now are they going to share all those reasons with you? Not at all as it's much easier to just vanish right? Either way disappearing is never a mature response to anything that may be going on that one finds difficult. I think the best method is to just be honest and up front. I'm not saying share your personal business but just maybe say" Hey this isn't going to work." and keep it moving!

So here we go! After doing some research and analyzing what I've seen, read or experienced over the years, here's my seven reasons why he just dips!

• He met someone else he's more interested in. As in your face as this may seem, it's true! Let me remind you that you're not the only cute girl in the world so if he's met someone else then so be it. I don't suggest begging him to call you or making him explain where you may have gone wrong. Just get over it already because it is what it is.
• He already has someone. Ah Ha! So that's what it was! He was trying to have his cake, ice-cream, cherries, cool whip and caramel syrup and eat it too. Keep in mind this is the guy who has a pretty decent relationship that he doesn't plan on leaving anytime soon yet he tries to fit the play card in occasionally to see if he can get a girl easily should things go sour in his home. Don't get offended if he disappears as he clearly has someone already.
• He just wants sex here and there but you're talking relationship/dating. Hmmmm this guy is not going to invest too much time or money into you and surely not a Never Ending Shrimp date at Red Lobster. He just wants to release his stress now and then. You know have sex at his leisure with NO strings attached? If he knows what he wants and you're already singing to a different tune; say bye bye baby because he's gone!
• He got bored with you. It happens! Men love sports, gadgets, food, cars, excitement and sexy women who are interesting, exciting and fun. If you're dull and dry and seem not to have anything going on that excites his childlike mind, then it's on to the next one! Sorry it happens! Not saying you should change but he got bored sorry! 
• You don't have enough money or klout for him. Did I mean to say that? Yes I did! back in what I'd like to call the good ole days the roles were a bit differently. The man provided the beautiful home, the man paid for the dates most of the time because he wanted to get and keep you; and the man was known for having the fly ride or at least a ride of some sort. Now things have reversed dramatically! There's an old song that Fox, Webbie and lil Boosie performs that says; " She got her own house, she got her own car two jobs works hard she's a bad broad!" These days men want the woman to have it going on so he can sit back and enjoy the privileges of her success! It doesn't help that Beyonce is running round offering to upgrade her man so these guys are wanting the same thing. I'm sure he'll pay to take you out occasionally but you best be ready to cover the tab too Mrs. independent or he's dipping!
• He may be interested in both women and men. Yes I said it! Move over sexy lady, this man's bringing a little something extra that just might take your place! As bold as that may sound it's true. These days it's almost expected to see women and men who are not only attracted to the opposite sex, but they are attracted to the same sex as well and if your new boo suddenly disappears, it may be to head over to chill with that special male friend of his. If you get my drift! It's just sex right? Umm Hmmm!
• He just wants to be friends and you already picking out the wedding gown! Girlfriend please stop talking and planning, you just went on one date! While I know you like to share your visions and talk about what you're looking for in a man, he just may not be feeling it and off he goes! Many times men want to see that you can hang with each other and have fun without being made to feel he's to show up one day with an engagement ring. If you're all bubbly about this new love affair and he's not, bye bye sweetie he's outta here!

Don't get me wrong this is only a small fraction of the many reasons men just disappear and I don't have my psychological hat on right now so breaking it down in a chemical imbalance format isn't going to happen today. But I hope you got the picture on why he may have just stopped calling and coming by. Until next time my loves peace!

Tinzley Bradford