Are You Just Sexy and Desirable and Not Much Else?

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I wanted to share a bit of news for you. I spoke to one of my male friends and asked him the ultimate question that I'm sure many women want to know. That question is, "How do men really view you?" He immediately told me in my own individual case, I'm chocolate, thick, sexy and desirable. While I was happy to know I'm desirable and sexy, I wanted to know if this is all men see me as "desirable?" He went on to say that in today's world intimacy is very important to men and it's almost no way around really getting any way in a relationship if you don't pretty much give up the "goodies." It would be nice to know that sexy and desirable is not just it for how I'm viewed.

I thanked him for being so honest and also for calling me desirable but I was shocked to hear it firsthand from a male perspective that pretty much if you're not putting out then you may have a harder time finding a relationship. Hmmm I thought. While I know sex is something that in my opinion is overrated, in the minds of men it's obviously a way of life and either you're with it or you're not going to be chosen. So now my plan is to see just how real his views are and find out once and for all if intimacy is the highlight of a relationship. I'm going to do a little flirting with the fellows to see how they react to me when I'm throwing it at them and when I'm more reserved with it. I’m trying to return to the olden days when sex was something that both men and women patiently waited on and both seemed okay with that. It wasn’t just sex it was “love making.” There’s got to be someone who understands!

I will take notes and some I'll come straight out and ask, "Do you wanna have some fun to kinda see what their idea of "fun" is?" The others I'll say hey "Do you wanna go get some ice-cream and chat?" To see if them knowing it's just chatting going on would gain and keep their interest. I think it will be interesting to see the results. I'm certain there has got to be some man somewhere who is just as willing to wait for the right time to get intimate as I am. I mean I don't mind eventually making passionate love to a guy I'm feeling, but it would be nice to at least know his first and last name. I just don’t think it should be that important and there should be something far deeper and greater between a man and a woman than just how well they can make each other explode in the bed room!

So before I go I'd like to ask you, Do you think intimacy is the highlight of a relationship being successful? Please share your views and leave your comments. I look forward to coming back with my findings. Until then have a great day and thanks for stopping by!

Tinzley B