Sure I'll fix You a Hot Meal...Do You Mind Helping Me Paint the House? The Handy Man Gets the Girl!!!

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In my quest to someday find true love, I've been observing what makes me smile and what brings me grief as I continue to date. I'm learning that the handy man type turns me on. There's just nothing like a guy who loves taking on projects, doing things himself to save money and make things easy for the woman he's in a relationship with. The other day, someone showed me some photos of a renovation project they were working on together. I couldn't help but notice all the fun they were having together as they worked on this project. The fellow was handling most of the hard stuff and the female was handling the cutesy stuff smiling the entire time. I watched this guy tackle some tough things that I'm not sure I could have done but he didn't seem to mind at all. He didn't even appear to be complaining about it either. Whatever it took to make her smile.

I read somewhere that when couples do projects and fun stuff together, they spend less time finding things to argue about and more time trying to get the task their working on done. I'm totally turned off by a man who sits there and does nothing around the house even though he sees there are things that need to be done that he could do just as a kind gesture. I remember dating a guy once and he was so lazy. I mean he wouldn't do anything handy. One day I noticed the screws on the chairs of my dining room set were loose. I mentioned to him as I struggled to check the screws, that I'd just try to see if I could tighten it a bit. This chair was heavy and was kicking my tail and him, he was sitting there eating chicken wings and never once offered to help. Then he had the nerve once I gave him the stare of doom, to reach out one hand towards the chair as he nibbled on the chicken wing with the other one. I'm like, Seriously? I was too turned off. I visualized our future together and me mowing the lawn, taking out the trash, painting the patio and pressure washing the house as he sits with his apron on serving me lemonade and cookies. Then he gets to enjoy the privilege of looking at my freshly manicured cute toes and brag about my sexy midriff.  And what do I get? A beer belly, receding hairline and a hairy back. I don't think so!

I love this quote by Paul Pope VI "All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try to avoid is the major building block in the person we are today. " Get up and do something!
I've included a few signs that show you've found you a handy man the kinda guy I'm digging!

• He sees things around the house that you just haven't gotten to and volunteers his time to help.
• He doesn't fuss that the lawn is high, he just grabs the mower.
• If a chair is loose he doesn't say," You need a new chair" he grabs the tool set and gets to work.
• Anything home improvement wise excites him.
• He's constantly suggesting ways to make things look better around the house and easier on you.
• You hardly ever have to wash your own car.
• Oil changes are always taken care of no need to worry.
• The moment he hears a strange noise from your car, he tries to see what it is and not stand there shaking his head as it roars.

So ladies if you meet a guy whose good with his hands and not just in the bedroom, he might be a keeper. I'm finding myself tempted to go stand outside the Men's Warehouse and pretend I thought it was a place to meet lot's of men. I think I just might. Anybody with me?I mean it just feels right when you're with someone who cares and will do little things to make sure you do have to stress over house hold tasks that may be a bit much for you. It also helps a relationship to grow and stay healthy.

Take a look at this post on building healthy relationships from the UT Counseling and Mental Health Center. I'd like to start including further insight on ways to help your relationships remain strong and healthy.
http://cmhc.utexas.edu/healthyrelationships.html


Thanks for stopping by!
Tinzley Bradford