Are You The Reason Your Relationships Aren't Working? A Few Ways To Tell.

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Dating is hard as you know what and finding true love while dating is even harder. So when you have mastered the art of finding true love and it doesn't last; how can you tell if you're the blame? I've come up with a few signs that may point the finger in your direction.

1. You talk way too much! Are you a person who always seems to dominate the conversations to head in the direction you want with little or no consideration to what he may want to discuss? I mean I know you're happy about that project you're doing good on at work, and the nice shoes you just bought that will go perfect with the lavender dress you got last year and let’s not forget how good you feel today because you worked out? I mean all of that in one sentence would send even Bob Barker packing; he can't even talk that much! Girlfriend you have got to shut up and allow this man to say something for crying out loud! I know you wouldn't like it if he never wanted to talk at all, but since he does will you please let him? Many guys are turned off by a woman who totally controls a conversation and it only seems to flow one way.

2.You're too obsessed with your appearance! Are you always in the mirror? Somewhere getting your thighs waxed or your hair, nails, and boobs done? Do you constantly say things like," They won't be able to tell me nothing cause I look good, don't I baby?" Are you always posing every time you look at yourself in the mirror as if you're at a photo shoot?Do you change clothes more than 4 times in a day just to go a few different places?  What about your need to let your boyfriend know just how many men and women checked you out today because you look soooo good? I get it, men like confident women, but they don't like overly confident women who feel the need to tell themselves "Their Hottt!" Tone it down some and allow other people to complement you before you take the initiative to complement yourself. Pretty soon, your looks may not be the only thing a person sees and your overly confident demeanor could become a huge turn off.

3.You're too negative about yourself and everything around you! I have gotten too fat. Oh I hate how I never manage my money right. My job sucks! Why do our neighbors always cut their grass on Thursday? Ewww, did you see that dress she had on? Why are you looking at me like that? These are just a few of the many negative things you may be saying that is sure to send your boyfriend packing. I mean why are you so negative? Is there ever anything good you have to say? Just read all those statements I posted and imagine what your man must be thinking having to constantly hear that kind of talk all the time.It gets old trust me and so will you in his eyes.

4.You seem too desperate for a relationship! Okay you just met this guy and have been talking to him for about a week. So why are you already asking him can he see himself being with you? Why are you already telling your mom and dad and sister and brother that you've found "The One?" You have got to just let things flow and most importantly, get to know him and him you before you began to speak about the future. I know the dating world is tough and the moment you find that one guy who seems to want more than a one and done you're hoping things will happen instantaneously. Well he just may be thinking you're moving a bit too fast and before you ever see your first date, he never calls again. Men like females who know how to have fun, hold a good conversation, appear to be sought after by other guys, have many choices, and know their worth. So if you're appearing too desperate and overly interested, he just might think you're trying to make the first guy you get your hands on commit to you without even leaving your own options open. Calm down and just date.

5.You're a slob! Okay let me tell you right now. I don't care how much fun you seem to be having and how into you it seems he is; the moment you let him over your house and he sees your panties all on the floor, shoes and junk thrown on the kitchen floor, toilet full of mildew rings, bath tub with rings in it and feminine products left open and all over the place; he remembers it forever. The bad thing is, he may not say anything and secretly hopes it was just bad timing and you're usually clean, but comes back and sees it's even worse; he may no longer consider dating you because you're a complete slob in his eyes. Women should be neat, smell good, have their products organized and panties in a hamper. I know we all get a little lazy and when you have your own place you don't have to clean up every day, but you do have to clean up especially if you expect him to continue wanting to date you. Girl, pick up those dirty socks!!

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Tinzley Bradford