You're Dating Your Ex Again, Should You Keep Dating Him?

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You really want to have a boyfriend so you decided to start dating your ex again. I'm not going to pound you for this, because I can understand why you'd be dating him again. There may be a few qualities that stood out when the two of you were together, and you want to see if the two of you can rekindle things. So now that you're dating him again, how do you know if he's a keeper? I have come up with a few signs that should help you determine answers to this very important question.

1. Ask yourself, Has anything changed that makes dating him again worthwhile? You know all the things that may have led to the initial breakup to begin with, are they still a factor? And can you deal with them?
2. Is he showing signs that he really wants it to work as well? Does he call more, where at one point he hardly called at all. Does he do sweet little things for you and seem to actually want to instead of being forced to do them because you may have mentioned it to him?
3. Can you both get passed the past?  Does every conversation some how turn into the blaming game? Are you constantly bringing up old news instead of moving forward towards the future? Chances are this will continue to happen unless you both really talk things through and vow to both make improvements that will help you regain a healthy relationship.If not, you'll break up again for sure. ( when does the cycle end?)
4. Do you really like him as a friend/person? Is this just an act of pure desperation and loneliness? I wouldn't suggest dating him again if your only motivation is you're lonely. You must find a compromise between each other and both seem to really like each other as friends and as people.
5. Ask yourself, how does it feel? Are you being fulfilled in this relationship now that you're dating your ex again? Does he seem to be happy to be a couple again? really think about this one. Too many times people want something so bad that they ignore all the signs that may actually be bad for them. How do you feel?
6. Ask yourself why you broke up in the first place. Was the relationship abusive? Whether it was you or him, any type of abuse is never acceptable. You should never return to an abusive ex, especially if the person has never sought counseling.

What ever your reasons are for deciding to date or take your ex back, please make sure you are doing it for the right reason. I have personally tried it because I saw potential in this person. I felt he may just come to realize that a good woman is hard to find and when she comes along, one should hang on real tight to her. This guy had a habit of not calling when he said he would, not spending time with me, not having anything really in common with me, but when we were around each other; we had the best time! he made me laugh and had a great since of humor. I figured, well maybe we can try to date again. I expressed to him what issues I was having with him and he expressed what issues with me he was having. I thought we could reconcile and maybe things would get better. Lets just say that was about 5 months ago and I'm still single. I saw that he hadn't changed and I wasn't about to try to change him.

I want everyone to find true love and be with that one person who was designed just for them. The reality is, it may not be the person YOU may want it to be. My tip to you is, If it doesn't fit don't force it! I'd like to hear your views on the topic so feel free to share. Thanks for stopping by!

Tinzley Bradford