How To Not Blame Everyone For Everything

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How well do you tolerate other people? How well do you tolerate the person you're dating? Are you always recognizing other people’s shortcomings and not your own? When is the last time you took a real look at YOU? Do you know what a person is going through or has gone through? Are you judging a book by it's cover?

• I'm beginning to notice that acknowledging my own shortcomings is allowing me to better accept the limitations of other people. 
• I find many times I want to know everything right away. Totally disrespecting peoples privacy. I wanted to dominate and control the relationship out of fear of being hurt before I could tear them down first. 

Do you search and find faults of despair the moment you meet someone and find yourself ripping them apart before you even got a chance to really know them or learn more about them? What things about me do the person I'm ripping apart notice, but accepts because he's looking forward to getting to know me. Think about it:

• I’m beginning to realize that my own behavior isn't as consistent as I often expect the person I may be dating’s behavior to be. I'm also noticing that I'm very distracted by the what if's instead of the what is, I'm often trying to protect myself before I even know why. 
• How can I expect perfection in a relationship when I myself am not perfect at all?

Have you actually looked back on past relationships and evaluated what really went wrong? Did they ever have a real chance, or did you go in swinging? Ask yourself:

• How can I not tolerate someone else when I'm not even sure of what it is they should be doing, saying or thinking?  I'm certain there maybe things I'm doing, saying or thinking that they may not feel the need to tolerate.

The reason I wanted to ask these questions and bring these various points to your attention is because; being more open-minded and considerate of others allows you to feel even better about yourself. Why? Because you begin to see similarities in other people that you otherwise may not have noticed with that wall up blocking you from finding true love and constantly blaming others for your downfall. How can anyone truly know what it is we need or want if we don't tell them? In building relationships, blaming only goes so far and believe me it's not very far at all.  I will leave you with this. As you strive to correct your own shortcomings and imperfections, learn to be more accepting of others and if you're dating, be twice as accepting. You'll learn in time that each and every one of us will always be a work in progress and will never be just flawless. (Now there are times when you know to draw the lines, you just have to use your own gut intuitions.)  I'd love to hear your views on this, do you think accepting others make life easier?

Thanks for stopping by. 

Tinzley Bradford