The Married Man Saga. Can You Save Your Marriage?

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I am single and it seems that lately, either men who are already involved with someone or who are married have been showing signs of interest in me. It seems that they aren't being too forthcoming, but make it clear that if I want to play they are definitely up for it.My views are, "If you didn't like it then you shouldn't have put a ring on it!" That way you can do as you please. One guy tells me he and his wife were separated for a while then he let her come back, then she said they have grown apart, then he agreed, now he's not sure and blah blah blah freaking blah. I tell you what, if you're not divorced then you're married. Stop looking for an outlet in other places and work on your marriage. I do know there are times when you and your wife have just grown apart. Where no matter what you do she just does not appreciate it. In those cases; you may need to consider other options. Face it some women are just cruel!

I have had married guys who try to make being "friends" seem like just a walk in the park. Guess what? It's a walk that I'm not interested in taking. You see my opinion is if your wife finds out about your alleged "friend" who happens to be a not so bad looking female, then I'm sure she wouldn't be okay with the late night chats, the texting, and the occasional phone calls you attempt to make. Would you invite your female "friend" over for pie with you and your lovely wife? Probably not. I read a tweet from a person who goes by the twitter name "@menexplained" His words:

menexplained 

"You don’t have male friends. All your male friends either want to sleep with you or date you. Possibly both."

I have to say I agree 100 %. I mean it's just human nature for a man to be attracted to a female. So don't come to me with this, "We can be friends." bull crap because you know that's not all you are interested in being. 

I have to ask this question. Men , what is it that makes you want to stray away? Did your wife suddenly become boring? Did all the goals she said she had that made you fall madly in love with her suddenly fade away? Did you marry her for money and now she has none left? Is her super-hot body starting to super sag now? I mean what is it? I'm big about about mending broken relationships and broken people. There has to be a way to make things work if you're willing to put in the work and face the giant; and not try to take the easy way out by seeking cheap thrills elsewhere. I've come up with just a few things I think may help.

1. Be open and ask her what's wrong? Let her know you notice a difference and just want to know what has changed between you two. She may just tell you.

2. Take a nice long look at yourself and the way you've been treating her. Chances are if you're suddenly interested in another female, she's picked up on it one way or the other. Figure out how to address it before it hits the fan.

3. Suggest counseling. There may be some emotional things going on with your wife or with you that neither one of you know how to resolve. Trained counselors know how to probe and get to the root cause of a matter. Try it.

4. Bring the romance back. What you did to get her, do it to keep her. I know we live in a struggling economy right now, but a simple rose, a movie night and dinner at a restaurant you know she loves, or just a simple foot massage at home after a hot bath. Trust me, she'll notice. Note: Don't always look for something in return right away once you knock her off her feet; chances are she'll fall back in love with you all over again. If she doesn't then make sure you try step one.

5. Stop the blaming game with each other and work on a fix or solution that makes since for you both. We all get into deep crap at times, but let's not point the finger, try working on it together. 

There are many more things you can do to save the love of your life and not have to cheat on her. Just make a vow to try and see where it goes. I'd like you to share your views on this post and let me know what you think. Thanks for stopping by!

Tinzley Bradford