What You Can DoTo Let Her Know You Are Interested

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I have this guy who I've known now for over two years. He's that type of person who I'm sure to get a chuckle from each time we talk on the phone. He's that person who says he really wants to be with me and often thinks of me. This guy seems to really think I'm just as fun to be around as I feel he is. The problem is, we barely talk on the phone, we haven't seen each other in months and he only sends the occasionally text which usually reads, " Thinking of you." Huh?????

This guy and I had issues in the beginning stages of dating which included his extremely high need for intimacy and my high need to feel secure before I get too intimate. He's always had a hard time understanding that intimacy is a natural thing that people often feel comfortable doing with that special person in their life. He seems to be afraid that if he's not getting in now, then he'll probably not get it later. Boy is he wrong but try telling him that. Now it appears that he prefers to keep his distance instead of continuing to show his true feelings.( Bad idea ) I also notice he doesn't like to talk on the phone(according to him) he prefers to see me face to face. Well you got to make time for that which he doesn't do, so the sound of my voice should be something he enjoys. He never acts like he enjoys talking to me. (Turn off)

I strongly believe that when you're interested in a woman, you should do everything you can to show her. I don't mean buy her expensive gifts all the time; I mean just be in her life for real and for the long run.  I have come up with a few things a guy should try to do "consistently" if he really likes her and wants her to know.

1. Make time for her. Come over to see how she is doing. Stop by to see if there is anything you can help her out with around the house. Nothing is more appealing than a man who at least tries. He may not be a handyman, but he puts forth the effort.

2. Don't just text once a month, text often even if it's to say you're having a hard day. Who knows maybe she will be that one person to comfort you and make it all better.

3. Offer to meet up with her at a restaurant or a bar, or maybe just a park or at a movie theater. No strings attached, just go somewhere together and go home. Trust me; she'll appreciate the fact that the two of you can hang without being made to feel it's time to get freaky afterwords. Instead call her later and tell her you had fun; maybe talk about the things yawl did or discuss highlights of the movie if you saw one. It's a turn on when a man knows how to converse well.

4. Listen to what she's saying and how she feels more. Don't find ways to judge her, instead remember something important she said and maybe bring it up later. A woman loves it when a man lets her know he was listening and actually cared about what she was saying.

5. Surprise her occasionally. I think it's sweet when a guy takes the time to do something unexpected just because.I mean flowers sent to her job. A card with maybe a gift certificate to one of her favorite stores that you should know because you have been listening to her right? A care package filled with girly things you know she needs and have observed she uses. House shoes, house coat, body lotions and fragrances, feminine products, nail manicure set. Just be creative at times. Believe me she will be blown away by just the little things you do.

6. Finally, if you want her tell her. Don't let your possible soul mate slip away simply because you didn't take time to really make her feel secure in this relationship. If you're not consistent now, she'll think this is how your relationship will be and possibly not give in. If you don't stay in her life then she'll think you don't want to be in her life. We all make time for things we want in life; so why should she be an exception. A woman needs to feel safe and certain that the man she chooses will not be shady or flip flop. If you want long term happiness with the woman you claim you really care for then; the ball is in your court and if you drop it you may just miss out on scoring. Pick up the phone and call her.