Is Having Money The Only Way To Get A Man These Days? What's In Your Wallet?

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I stumbled upon a blog titled "Men want Babes, Women want guys with Money" http://inebriatedpress.wordpress.com/

There was a statement made from a guy that read ,“Raquel Welch may be 68 but she’s hot, has money and is famous.  You think I’d pass on her for some twenty-year-old bimbo who is trying to ‘find herself’?  Well, maybe for a night or two, but not in the long run.”

Can you believe that? This guy openly said he'd pretty much use a young thing for a few nights and go after an older woman with money, looks and experience. And I'm certain he doesn't stand alone. I find it funny how many guys want a woman to be beautiful and have money, when many of them are barely making the cut themselves in the looks department. How is that possible? In this same article it said that women prefer old men with money. I'm not certain that's actually 100 % true. Is starting to look like the other way around to me. I mean listen to some of the music. Drake a male rapper said in one of his rap verses,  He's looking for a woman who can let him hold some money if he ever needs it and when they go eat, she isn't looking for him to pay. I began to realize that lately it seems like I'm seeing more and more of this type of behavior everyday.

So my question is, does it seem that women are having a harder time finding a man who actually still enjoys playing the "Male Role?" You know, like Tom Cruise who once said he loves pleasing and taking care of his woman or something like that. I don't remember it verbatim, but he said it. Like back in the good old days when a man had too much respect to be seen asking a female to buy him some Jordan's or pay for his new Turbo engine for his car.  I mean it's tough trying to find "the one." It really is. It seems they are all busy looking to be upgraded as Beyonce said in her song "Upgrade". (Thanks a lot Beyonce) Now the men are looking for me to co-sign for them an entertainment center, fully loaded from Best Buy and also looking for me to throw him some dollars to get new rims on his car. (Are you kidding me?) I mean don't get it wrong, I can totally understand a man wanting someone with something to offer, but my goodness do you have to be so bold? I get eyed all day like I'm in a meat factory they be looking at me like " What's in Your Wallet? Had one guy tell me you got your own car? Check! You cute too. Check! You working too? Check! Keep in mind he's standing outside the Walmart looking like he hangs out there sometimes, yet he has time to create a check list for the perfect woman he's in search of? Boy Be gone! I started to say, "Hanging outside the Walmart? Fail! "

Well since upgrade means to replace with a newer or better version, then partner let ME upgrade you and  you can get the heck out of here so I can get a newer and better version. Ha! I mean a guy asked me if he could drive my car because we were seeing each other for a short while and clearly weren't compatible. I had one plan out what will happen once he moves in. Huh?? Once you move in? Move in where? Um I don't even know your last name yet and you already making plans up in here? What's wrong with em?

Face it, I know it's tough for every body and we are living in a very challenging economy, but until you get your self at least half way together; will you stay the heck away from me? I'm trying to make it not be someones sugar mommy. We all need each other and together we can make it. It shouldn't be one sided. Then had the nerve to cop an attitude when I put him in his place. Be gone!!

Has anyone experienced this lately? What do you think, are the roles some how beginning to change?

Tinzley Bradford