Is Finding A Good Strong Healthy Relationship Humanly Possible?

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 I write a lot of blogs that mostly discuss the "bad" experiences and my thoughts about them. Many may say
" Wow, she's pretty hard on men." And I could see why they would say that, but trust me I do have my reasons. As I state in my bio, "If you don't know you're making mistakes while dating, how can you learn from them?" I share these night mare stories so that some Billy Bob, or Joe Blow who may even be thinking about half stepping when it comes to dating, just might think again. If a guy really takes the time to first, get to know a female and second, take the time to "understand" her, then yes to answer the question above, " Is Finding A Good Strong Healthy Relationship Humanly Possible?" It is humanly possible, but it takes effort and want.

I've put together a few questions to consider when you are considering dating and have met a person who you just may believe is the one.

1.Why do you want her? This is a question that often reveals ones true intentions. I've asked this question tons of times and the answers I get will shock you.  Just a few examples and yes these are true and real answers. "Cause she's hot!" (Umm okay) "Cause she has her on whip!" (Umm I hope you do as well)  "Cause she got that bread!" (Umm and do you have butter and jam?)
"Cause she got her own crib!" ( Umm with a nice $900.00 mortgage to keep it, can you handle that?)

2. What is your plan once you get her? There are too many instances where wanting to date and "get the girl" and being ready to date and "keep the girl" seem to cause confusion for some. I know we don't live in a perfect world and you all can't as Lil Wayne says, " Make it rain" but think about the expectations that comes with actually having a girlfriend. Do you think spooning every day and not much else will blossom into a good strong and healthy relationship? I mean think about it trash piling up, lawn hasn't been mowed, siding bulking up, electric bill two months past do but you wanna lay there and spoon? No sweetie, you WILL have to be ready to live like a couple and not just play house. She gone need a lil help and hunching doesn't qualify as help.

3. Do you want to get married someday or are you just there to say you got a girl? I don't know about you, but I want a man to come in knowing he's looking for a wife, a long term relationship, a help mate, his soul mate, the love of his life, "the one" his angel, his gift from God and the list goes on and on. I mean face it, if you come to me hollering, bay when we gone chill? You will get drilled! Or you may just get a blank stare because what do you mean when we gone chill? Ummm and you are? Come to a woman knowing you're ready to someday get married. It's time to grow up, it's time out for game playing. It's old news woman hopping. I mean aren't YOU tired of not being happy with all these different females you keep trying to "chill” with? When you could be with that one good woman who loves you, hairy back, double chin and all? Go get you girl!

4. No one’s just perfect, not even you. Enough said! If she has flaws then who doesn't? Beyonce wrote a song called flaws and all; you should listen to it if you've never heard it. http://www.youtube.com

These were just a few examples of the many things you should really consider when you're ready to date again and you know it could turn serious. Will you be ready?  It eliminates problems when the both of you are on the same page. Looking for the same thing, wanting to grow and learn together. If you take a moment to just sit down and truly think about the value of a woman; you will find yourself doing everything you can to love and care for her. Keep in mind; it was a woman who gave birth to you. I’d like for you to take some time and really think about what it will take to have a good strong healthy relationship. I do believe that it's humanly possible but it does take effort and a want for it to happen. Ask yourself, are you tired yet?

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Tinzley Bradford