When Is It Okay To Let Him Have It?

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Recently a loved one of mine was dumped by her boyfriend all because he realized after an entire year of verbal abuse towards her, belittling her character, criticizing her every flaw and not being supportive of her needs; he just doesn't think it's going to work. This person has loved him despite of his disorder and issues,
( let me not go into details, but let's just say it's pretty bad.) He'd already pretty much dumped her when they got into an argument and he left her high and dry. But it wasn't actually official and my loved one being the sweet heart she is, just wanted to hope for reconciliation.

She thought it was coming when she received a text after not speaking to this jerk for a week, he said he needs to talk to her. Me personally after this long year of mistreatment, I don't think anything could have been said that would make me want him back, but she tried. She went over his house at his request and he officially dumped her. Just like that, he said he loved her, he'd just gotten her roses two weeks before and had them spread on the bed and he was even planning a great birthday for her. But oh no, he decides he just doesn't want her. I've never seen her cry so hard. It made me sad.

She didn't feel she could really say anything that would convince him to give this another try so she didn't say anything at all. She just got her stuff feeling like a penny with a hole in it and left. Wondering what in her heart she didn't do right, she called me later and said she wished she said this and that but she didn't out of respect. She didn't want to be the "lesser" person. Me on the other hand I said let him have it. Only because throughout the entire relationship, she has been playing peace maker. She has bit her tongue numerous amounts of times just to not "hurt" him. But he didn't seem to mind hurting her at all. I feel when you've given your all and tried to remain lady like just to be treated like crap, it's okay to get it out and say what you really have been wanting to say. He'd been controlling her, and lying to her about something so sensitive as love, he even told her what he thinks his ideal woman should be like as if she wasn't there. ( So Heartless) I say let him have it! You won't feel good until you do. I mean how many people just hold emotions in without truly addressing them?

I'm not saying eye for an eye is good, or tit for tat is a good way to handle disputes, but what I am saying is taking your freedom back, claiming your fierce confidence back that he stole and giving him what he never saw coming from the very person he manipulated and dissed, " Priceless!"

I'm proud of her! Well Done!

Tinzley Bradford