In case you haven't read my other post titled, " Cause He is the Truth" I am proud to share that Monday will make three weeks for me and Mr. "The Truth" being into each other. Pretty impressive for a gal like me who is known to cut men short quick the moment he gets on my nerves or shows no constant signs of interest.Be gone!
I noticed a slight difference in the way I'm dealing with this guy. It's as if I've developed this unusual amount of patience and acceptance to deal with things that usually has me annoyed and turned off and sends men packing. I'm so excited that I thought I'd write about it. I realized that it's okay if a guy isn't perfect or if he's not the "usual" type you would date. I've come up with some ways I feel will keep you from sabotaging a possibly good relationship by just being plain unreasonable. Poor thing, he's just trying. Now if he's a loser and you know it, get him! LOL
1. If he's still wearing Fubu sneakers sky blue denim jeans and Southpole attire, wait don't lose it and tear him down so bad that he would prefer to show up naked than dare to show up and be verbally abused by you. Just ask yourself, does clothes make him a good man? What's he been doing since you two met that his Fubu shoes has anything to do with? I know that you maybe a fashion queen who wants a man beside you to compliment you as well. I can suggest just gradually show him items that you think he would look nice in and maybe he will gradually break away from the early 90's get up. Jump! Jump! Kriss Cross will make you Jump! Jump! Arghhh!!!
2. Okay, you've began to notice he laughs like a member of the mother's board at your church and although he's still a pretty young guy, he reminds you of that deacon at your church who always runs the Saturday Barbecue church fundraisers. Nice and kind, but rather corny. Try to not allow this to make you look at him with pure "OMG you're so lame I'm out of here!" This may make him feel bad, he's only human but he happens to like you. Maybe he's just an old fashion kind of guy, but how does he treat you? Does his laugh have anything to do with those nice breakfasts and dinners you've both been going to? How about the time he came over and made you breakfast at your home? Hmmm, might want to not run this one away. Just laugh with him and secretly laugh to yourself about his corny ways, it may actually begin to bring you great joy in your life. Maybe tell him" Hey you laugh funny." And see how he reacts he may laugh even harder and the two of you can then have this joke about his laugh that may bring you closer. At least you have something to laugh about, which means he's calling you and you're constantly talking unlike the other guy who wanted to make it a block buster night after only 5 minutes of knowing you online. Arghhhh!( See blog "Have we Met?")
3. It seems like too much too soon. He just keeps talking about the future and the two of you together, and marriage and blah blah blah freaking blah! While I can understand how it may appear to be too soon for this kind of conversation, it's actually quite pleasant to know that he not only likes you, but can see you as potential "wife material." Isn't that what you want? Just continue to move slow and keep an eye on what he does, not just what he says, does he keep his word? It's important to remember that guys who want to marry you all fast may have a hidden agenda, but guys who simply talk about it may just want you to know that they are looking for more than just a weekend fling from you and you should be happy especially if you too are in search of a good man who may someday become your husband. Too many times I hear guys say" Oh I'm not really looking for anything right now and blah blah blah freaking blah." Well I am, be gone! It's nice to meet a guy who wants the same thing you want and is not afraid to talk about it. Take it slow but don't run him off out of fear he's trying to get in and ride your coat tail to success. Because you know you have it going on! Go Girl! LOL
4. Another thing I can suggest is to make him feel just as good as he makes you feel. If he says hey baby, you can say hey sweetie! If he texts you with sweet things, it's okay to reply back occasionally with a nice note back to him. Don't go crazy with it wear every 5 minutes you're texting things to him like; I like you, I'm glad we met, am I on your mind, am I pretty to you? Calm down honey! Just do things to let him know you're interested too. Men like to know they are wanted as well; if not they tend to stray towards a woman who shows them attention back. Even if it's that Fire Fire! You know what I mean!
5. Please don't ask him for money already or start spreading the news that your phone bill is do. Ultimate turn off! I mean you wouldn't want him coming to you with that type of issue would you? So why should he play captain save a girl? Men are going to do what they feel lead to do. I mean, you've been keeping it paid so keep showing that independence and if it gets cut off, let him offer. Don't just make him feel like now that you have been knowing each other every bit of three weeks; he's got to show you the money! If he likes you, trust me he will do little things with out you having to say a word. Who knows, it may start being bigger things, but don't just expect it right away! "You got ten dollars I can borrow til payday?" Not cute!
I can honestly say that these things I mentioned are things I've been doing that has made me and this guy stay connected and look forward to seeing each other more. I don't plan on sabotaging this relationship if it continues to evolve, but you know me. I'm still Tinzley who started this blog so don't even try me buddy. You just may find out the hard way, WHY I started this blog. Thank you for visiting and please come again. Remember, don't let him see your feet until you're ready!
Tinzley Bradford
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