I just don't understand it! Why some guys want to be in relationships and want to date, yet they have nothing to really offer. If you know you are not working right now whether it's by choice or due to an unexpected hardship, you probably need to not add any additional responsibility in your life such as trying to have a girl friend. Don't you realize that when you open up that door of possibility, there will be expectations moving forward from whoever you're trying to date. If you are not able to meet those expectations, there's bound to be problems.
I do understand you may already be in a relationship and that's way different, because if you suddenly face hardship then the two of you will have to decide if you can hang in there together until you're back on your feet. If you're single however, don't run off and try to pick up a woman if you know you have no means to build any sort of relationship that will last. Sex is not a relationship! I know from my own experience that I have worked very hard to take care of my daughter, keep my household balanced and work on my career. The last thing I need is someone coming in my life wanting to get with me, but I have to pick him up, he only had money that one day we went out, but really he's not working, he doesn't have his own place. I mean really? Why are you trying to date? You need to get yourself together before you try to scoop a female.
It's interesting that I've had guys think I'm some gold digger simply because I don't put up with a person who can't offer anything. I try to motivate them, share different things they can do to try and find work, inspire them not to quit, help them with their resume, but I'm sorry I'm still not obligated to be their woman. Would they want me if I had no job, car, place of my own and nothing to contribute to the relationship? I'm sure they wouldn't, so why should I? You don't need anyone in your life who is more of a burden than they are a benefit.
It's ashamed because there are women who will allow this and be okay with it for now because she thinks she's in love. The thing is, eventually that feeling will wear off because love does not pay the bills, put food on the table or gas in the car. People have got to step up to the plate and know their place. If you are not in a position to take care of yourself, then you don't need to try and date anyone, just work on Y-O-U.
Visit the link below from advice maven Tina Tobin, Luv em or leave em.com, it's a great site with lots of relationship advice. Read through it, you may see some articles that fit your issue. Keep in mind they are just opinions of the author and guest writers of that page.
http://luvemorleavem.com/
Tinzley Bradford
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2 comments:
I don't understand why women put up with these men. A relationship is the sum of what you both put into it, if you're the only one putting anything into it then you're really a solo act. I know women that would never put up with a friendship that was one sided, yet they will do this for a man--it makes no sense.
By the way, thanks for the LuvemOrLeavem shout out:-)
That is a good synopsis, why would anyone put up with that? Why would a person who says they are interested even try to get away with being sorry like that? There has got to be something wrong with a man who doesn't see anything wrong with a one sided relationship.
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