For those gentlemen who work for a living, play games occasionally, get great affection and loving and enjoy a hot meal from a woman who sees your value and you her’s, thank you and this write up is not intended for you, because you understand that you have to earn a woman’s respect and trust, then there is nothing she won’t do for you.(MOST OF US)
I read an article entitled," Do Black Men Prefer Dominican Women Over American Women?"
it highlighted the opinions from the guys who compared women from the Dominican Republic to American women. They felt American women are too competitive, don't cook or clean, have forgotten how to be wives and girlfriends and don't have anything interesting to talk about. I included the link directly from the site, you should check it out. It was quite amazing, the mentality of many of our men these days.
Here is just one of the comments directly from the site from a guy name Lewis he says; “After working hard all day, I honestly don’t want to hear a lot of the talk that I have to hear from the black women that I deal with in the states. It’s always a conversation that I don’t really feel like having. In D.R., the women are more laid back, and they respect the sanctity of your manhood. They give you your space to be a man, and I respect that.” ~Lewis, attorney click here to read the full article http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/02/do-black-men-prefer-dominican-women-over-their-own/#comment-32678
What conversation is that Lewis? One that requires you "communicate" with your woman? I left the comment below on that page.
“Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses, women for their strengths.” (Lois Wyse)
So all those men in the article and those who left one-sided comments, owe me an apology for being too weak to handle a strong woman with goals.Don’t worry, I forgive you. “Men forget but never forgive. Women forgive but never forget.” (Unknown) So run on to where you feel you can do what you want when you want. Have fun, since life is just one big game to you. I don’t think even Dominican women will tolerate you too long either once she realizes what many of you are truly about. ( Food, sex, and video games!!)
I believe all people have a competitive nature of some sort. I do not agree that we as black women try to compete with men, I do believe that many of us are very accomplished and very confident to the point where; we don’t allow meritocracy in our lives at all. Why should I apologize for that? It's not a matter of what color we are, I believe all "WOMEN" want that man they can depend on, trust, and love. I believe many men, ( I won’t say all ) have become too lazy to work towards being deserving of a strong, confident, hardworking woman who has values that she won’t break. Many men are very self absorbed and competitive themselves by nature. It’s either their way, or you’re considered some nagging woman with issues or baggage. Don’t get me wrong, many women do have baggage they haven’t addressed but so do many men. There is room for growth in lots of people. Men love to eat, screw, play video games and if he’s not doing much else and get’s called out on it, sure he’s going to bounce. Why would he want to be reminded of the fact that you’re no dummy? It’s a sad day when a man starts looking for ways to get something for nothing, and that’s all this is; an excuse to not have to listen to the thoughts and views of a woman; but to just have the freedom to hop in bed and do what you won’t with no real connection at all.
“You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself.”( Galileo Galilei )
No matter how hard a woman tries, she will never be able to master the craft of getting a man to truly understand the concept behind being a good, strong, loyal, patient and loving man. He has to decide that’s who “HE” wants to be. Until then, he’ll run around playing what ever game he feels he can win. If you start telling him what the rules are, sorry he’s gone. He prefers a game he can win, not one which requires effort and has rules.
I'd like to know do you agree with the fellows in the article or can you see things from a different perspective?
Please click the link above and read the article your self leave your comments as well, thanks for stopping by..
Tinzley
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I read this article a while back also. The main focus was that these men are going to the Dominican to PAY women for sex and their time! It's called prostitution and the women will be anything they want them to be as long as the men are paying. Do they really think these women are any better than American women? As soon as these women find financial independence they will not be catering to men unless they deserve it. You get what you pay for!
Interesting Point Lisa,for me I just don't see all Dominican Republic women being the same,neither do I see all American women being useless. Times have changed and many of them are very self sufficient and have financial independence.The issue seems to be the guys who don't want to have to compete with that, but want all the perks that come with a woman.
The word is out. Foreign women treat American men better. I can't tell if this is true but I've heard it many times. So its worth investigating to find out if its true. American women expect the world, to be treated like princess but do very little to earn that treatment.
Women say we have to earn their trust and respect. No we don't. As a man I will not bend over backwards, shower you with attention or affection, or compete with other men for your love when you as a woman have not stepped up to the plate and earned that right from me. Women complain all the time theres a shortage of men. Well what are you gals bringing to the table besides being "Cute"? Enlighten me.
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Any man or group of men who make widespread, ignorant generalizations like that are just not worth even addressing. Have to question the mental caliber of a person who does that-- or their ulterior motive (to insult or simply say "F*ck you" to a group of people they feel has wronged them or whatever)
They are clearly not (decent) husband/father material.
I agree with that Aspiring Napper I mean who does that? Not wanting to put in work for a healthy relationship? Love your screen name by the way! Thanks for your comment
Thanks for your comments. I stand firm in my views and the great thing about "True" love is, it just is and it just happens. When it does, you will know whether you cooked and cleaned for him or whether you just sat and listened to him when he needed you most and gave him fresh air to breath again.
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