If there's going to be a debate over whether or not you should help with handyman type things around the house, then there's no doubt that you and I weren't meant to be. Please be gone! Can I ask you why you're here? " Man Up!" I am beyond the point of zero tolerance when it comes to the man who " I choose" to be in my life. Just like we all need food to eat and air to breath, I need a man with a tool box and lawn mower with plenty of gas.
It may sound demanding, well that's because it is. I have spent many years of my life compromising and just allowing what is to be when it comes to men. Well as I've expressed in many of my blogs, it won't happen anymore. I strongly believe a man should want to make things easier on a woman. If I'm standing there saying my garage is so unorganized and I need to clean it, um that might be a good time for you to come in and say, oh I can help you with that baby. And if I'm making it clear that the grass sure is high, you might need to state oh I can cut that for you or I know a friend who does landscaping, I'll set it up for you.
I mean why is this so hard? A relationship shouldn't have to come with instructions! I'm not here to play with you and give you pleasure parties. What I am here to do is be one of the best help mates a man has ever been with, as long as he treats me right. Why am I constantly having to say this stuff? Why do you think you can come in my life with nothing to offer, thinking that existing alone is enough? I'm trying to make it not be in the presence of someone who thinks borrowing a few dollars from a buddy to take me to get hot wings will impress me. Please be gone! This way of thinking will not only get you a nice long blank stare, but it will also get your number lost never to be seen again in my cell phone. Please be gone!
If you have any questions or concerns regarding me and what I'm looking for in a man, please refer to all my blogs, take notes then make your move. And get that lawn mower ready because you will be using it!!
Tinzley Bradford
2 comments:
Wow! First let me say that I admire what you are doing here with this site. I consider you a trailblazer and I really hope you get a show that stays true to your vision!!
On that note, I have to say that I was shocked reading this post. If a man had wrote this post (regarding cooking, cleaning, sex) he would have sounded like the most sexist demanding, selfish, misogynistic person ever. Yet we women are allowed to do the same things and feel justified because on the whole, men are pretty 'pathetic' (selfish, dishonest, etc.).
I don't say this to discount the years of unfair treatment you might have had. But I feel that everyone loses when we approach dating like, "Well, what is he bringing to the table?" I believe the whole point is to find ONE person who loves us and whom we love. Coming into the game with a checklist, I believe, is artificial and sets us up for negative experiences. We're smart, experienced women. We don't need a checklist to decipher an asshole. And we only need our HEARTS to tell us who is a decent, honorable man who truly loves us for who we are.
Just a thought...
That is so true, it's funny because when I write many times it's about an experience I either am having at the current time or have had. It's my way of getting it out then being able to move on. Trust me, my bark is much stronger than my bite. I'm pretty fair, but I have zero tolerance for a man clearly trying to get something for nothing. Thanks for your feedback I loved it. That's a great way to look at it! Come by again soon!
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