I recently did something that I at one point vowed never to do again. I created a profile online for dating purposes. I mean it’s for networking too, but my intentions was to meet someone special, then we fall madly in love, and run off into the moonlight or sunset or wherever lovers run off to.
So I started getting all kind of hits on my page. Some people left personal notes in my in box, some just tried to IM me each time they would see that I’m online. I had those from New York, California, and North Carolina trying to get with me. Then I had those from Ghana and Nigeria wanting a shot at me. ( Can you say SPAM? ) I don’t respond to those too much and no one should, I mean why you in Ghana trying to get with me? Go find a Ghana woman.
Anyway, so I finally got a hit from someone who I noticed lived very close to me; he even left me a nice note. It said,” How are you 2nite sweetie?” I think I’m in love. So I responded and we began to interact for a minute. We noticed that we both seemed to be interested in each other so we exchanged numbers.
Well, we decided to meet each other in person and since his profile seemed personable and real, I agreed. I can honestly say the visit went nice. We were talking, laughing, feeling each other, and then I had the nerve to ask him what he is looking for. He then responded,” I’m really not looking for anything and if something happen, it just happens.”
I chose not to elaborate any further because by then I pretty much knew this would not be a guy I’d pursue any further. But he sent me a note. But he wanted to see me and I wanted to see him. But we were having fun. He even told me he likes my company and I’m fun to be around and that I'm sexy.Sexy? So what does he mean he’s not looking for anything? OMG
Oh he’s looking for something alright, just not a steady woman. Maybe a little bump and grind ya think? I am 38 years old, I want stability, yet I get stuck with guys trying to 'Give it to me!' I mean that's fun and all, but hello, I'm single and available, you don't want to pass me up. ( If I could only get men to see me the way I see myself.) Sheesh!!!
I would like to know what a guy means when he says that. And why does he bother leading people to believe there may be interest beyond the bedroom? I say bedroom because that’s clearly what he was looking for. No one is just not looking for anything, come on be real. Why join a dating site to not date? I don’t get it. Pisses me off!
Tinzley B
2 comments:
Hey Tinsley,
When I say that I feel you on this blog, that has to be the understatement of the century! This has been one of my biggest vices in dealing with men. I see so many couples out there so this means that there are men who at SOME point decided they wanted exclusivity, however it seems the only ones that I meet are the ones who "aren't looking or anything" or who just want to "go with the flow" which translates to: let me see if she'll give me sex without the responsibility.
Girl...if you find a place where there are men who actually want more than just a romp in the hay, PLEASE let your sista girl know!!
GREAT BLOG! I am such a huge fan of your writing!!
Thank you, and if I find that place, I will let you know for sure. LOL But for now, I'm just gonna keep on writing about it, maybe one will begin to understand me...And fall madly in love..
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