Here I sit, at the head of my bed, in my room, the day after a night of going out and me still not meeting one guy, although there were many to choose from. But I only went to party right? ( good excuse Tinzley )
I went to a club last night to celebrate one of my friends birthday. It was quite a crowd and men for days, which is something being single, I like to see. We walked in and immediately you can see the guys just sort of starring at you, you know kind of looking you up and down and checking you out. We sat a table and ordered hot wings and drinks. Mean while, men would walk pass, look at you with this little smirk, yet never say a word. One even stood right behind the table I was sitting at, and starred at me with like this weird look on his face, I don't know it was kind of creepy.( plus he reminded me of an over sized pills berry dough boy ugh...)
The music was too loud, I mean to the point that I could feel our table vibrating and a few times thought my phone was ringing when I felt my purse vibrating. For some reason, I wasn't feeling it at all and the thought of meeting a guy seemed very slim considering they were all smiles and no talk. I sat and watched the overcrowded dance floor filled with freaks of the week and people just having fun. I then begin to wonder, after 38 years, one 16 year old daughter, and me still being single; should I be making the first move? Do men expect that now even in a club? I mean, I have been known to make eye contact with men, smile and he would usually finish the rest, but last night was different. The men were looking, but not much else.( What does that mean? )
As we began to leave, I couldn't help but feel like I was on display at an X Box 360 new games showcase, the way the guys were just looking, starring, and gazing at me. I have to admit, it felt good that I still had it and could still get attention when I hit the club scene, but I left the club with only one phone number; which was that of some woman who fell in love with the necklace and earring set I was wearing and wanted to know how she could get one.OMG now I'm on a jewelry display too?
So with this being said, and me still being single,I have to ask; should I have flirted a little harder and possibly made the first move? Should I have not only sat in my chair and gave an outstanding chair dance to myself, but gotten up, ran to any random guy and began to freak him on the dance floor like hayyyy? Should I have been the one who initiated the conversation even in a packed club with music so loud, that I could barely hear myself think?
I mean I'm not afraid to make the first move, but in my opinion a club with a bunch of drunk, horney party animals, just didn't seem like the place to meet "the one." Or is it, I don't know, I didn't ask? What do you think?
Tinzley Bradford
4 comments:
well in my opinion and from experience most guys are shy and not sure how to approach certain women therefore they may look and not approach out of fear of rejection
Thank you, that does make since, I was thinking maybe they were looking for someone who appeared a bit more wild. You know, every mans fantasy.
"Great blog post!
I would say its totally up to you! I prefer not to make the first move but I can guarantee you that a smile in a crowded room will get you so many numbers you'll be turning guys down. I have a few ideas: ask them for a drink suggestion or make a comment about the music playing... all those things work, guys just need to know you're interested then leave the rest up to them. Good luck!"
"I would say go for it Tinzley. Just start a conversation and you can usually tell about someone real quick. One of my good friends met his wife in a bar and they are very happily married. Just remember that most men are there because they are looking for the right woman. Just be careful and let it be a casual thing:)"
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