I'm Good at Getting Men to Want Me, Just Not To Want To Marry Me...Anyone Have Similar Issues?

I am single and my last long term relationship was in my early twenties. Can't quite determine what it is I may be missing if anything, but I can say many women are good at getting men to want them. Not want to marry or want to date them, but just want them. What helps me now and what has in the pass is, focusing on my good qualities and the good qualities in the man I'm seeing at the time.If we can see eye to eye on most things, then that's a great sign. If we develop a true, unconditional friendship then that's another great sign. If I voice my opinion ( wrong or right ) and he goes ham on me, then that's a bad sign. I think that's the problem I'm having, no one wants to truly listen anymore, they don't want to talk, and I do. They don't want to get to the root cause yet I do, and that causes problems.


Too many times, men want what they want and they expect you to provide it and they expect it fast. Some men aren't sensitive to women's needs and therefore ours may go un-noticed, yet when we try to share you are looked at as a nagger. I get that a lot, they want you to just allow things to happen. It seems even if you aren't happy with the way things are going. They want you to just zip it, and say nothing just deal with it. Some times you can, but sometimes you can't.I can't just do that, I'm more than just a slave to a relationship.

I've been running into men who right away expect wife material before a friendship has ever been established. They want great sex, good food, and little or no talking. I find that hard to just do right away, all because someone wants me to. Where is the compromise?


It could be a two way street, he may be missing something .That's why friendship is important, and if he likes being around me he would know I like being around him.
A good friend would see that and these days, no one seems to want to build a friendship first.They just want sex, food, and a maid. It's so much more involved. I mean I got a pedicure, couldn't be my toes aren't cute enough. LOL

I'm going to leave it at this, and unknown author wrote," The best kind of friend is one who can sit with you and not say a word, and when they walk away, you feel completely understood." That's how relationships should be.

What ever happened to dating?

Tinzley Bradford