Weed breath can be a huge turn off.
Okay, you wanted to get high with the guys, but did you have to do it right before you came to see me?Better yet,did you have to do it at all? If your clothes and breath reap of weed, please don't schedule a date. Besides, most women want to see the 'real' you, not someone high on a substance. How can you really expect to get far with a mind clouded and full of smoke and not being able to think clearly? There are many people who need this sort of substance and it has been known to heal or comfort some patients, but if you are just hanging out and getting high there may be consequences you will have to face.
I recently began dating a guy, who at first seemed to be on point with what I was looking for in a man. He called me a couple of times and asked me on a real date with no strings attached. We began to get a little closer as time progressed and I found myself liking him and he said he was feeling the same.
Recently he showed at my house with his breath and clothes smelling like weed and was gesturing for me to kiss him, and wanted to sit on my fresh spread and sheets. I told him I was disappointed and that the smell was making me sick. He said he would not do it again, so I gave him a chance. It gets worse, he came to visit me again and this time he did not smell like weed but the sad part is, he went to his car to get his wallet so he claimed, and came back in smelling like the substance. By now I'd had enough, and I have since told him to no longer come to see me and we barely talk. He says he is trying to stop I really like him, but I can't allow some behaviors in my life. He feels I am being too hard on him and says, “It’s just weed." I however feel I'm doing the right thing. I have a daughter and this would not be a good example to set for her. Not to mention his need to constantly smoke raises my concern as to whether or not he'd try other drugs. I had to let him go and I know I did the right thing.
Tinzley
4 comments:
I think it is unfair to expect him to quit and change his lifestyle just because you don't like it.
Personally, that blog post is the reason I wouldn't even start a relationship with a girl who didn't smoke bud.
Thats great and you have a right to that choice and so do I.
So you found that you didn't like something about him and didn't want to date him anymore. That is fair pretty much no matter what the issue is.
"Not to mention his need to constantly smoke raises my concern as to whether or not he'd try other drugs."
First of all, his "need" to smoke is probably more accurately, his fondness of the feeling when high. If you want to see addiction then try taking pain medication for years and trying to quit.
Second of all, where do you get off justifying that his affiliation with marijuana will lead him to trying other drugs? Is this a 5th grade drug lecture? We know that the "gateway" theory is at the very least, flawed.
Maybe just leave it at your decision that you guys were not right for each other or that he was not a good example for your daughter. Those are both perfectly valid reasons. This "sour grapes" style justification just doesn't hold water and definitely makes you seem "holier than thou" when you don't even know the poor guy.
Thank you Jason, I think you have a valid point, but so do I.
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