Dating Challenges and how to still feel the love

Hello I wanted to speak more on many of the dating challenges single women in Atlanta have while dating and just single females in general. I also share a few coop ways you can get over being single and do things to make yourself feel good, whether it's treating yourself and spending quality time with those loved ones around you.Being single does NOT make you a non-traditional American it just makes you a single American!

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My Clip From My Local TV Station 11 Alive News Dating Debate, Is ATL The Best City To Date In?

I wanted to share this short clip of me on 11 Alive News as I share a few tips on dating and also what I believe causes so many problems for single women looking to date in the ATL area. Click the link to see the full clip:

11alive.com/video/1451606343001/1/Debate-Is-Atlanta-the-best-city-for-singles

News Anchor Jeff  Hullinger myself and Rebecca live on 11 Alive News

Sex and the Single Mom

How stressed are you when it comes to sex? I know as a single mom you don't want it to appear like you're an easy catch, but you if you want it, get it. Check out this video and see my full blog by clicking the link below.




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   http://www.abiolatv.com/sex-single-mothers-sexuality-love-dating-advice/

The Ego Can Ruin a Mans Chances of Finding True Love



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I went to the barber shop with my friend today and immediately there was this one barber whose ego seemed to be bigger than all three of us combined. The first thing he asks is was I married; well he actually asked us how we were doing first as if he REALLY cared. Upon my answer he went on to say well you’re a very beautiful black lady and you’re not married? There is something wrong with that! What’s wrong? I told him I don’t think it’s something wrong it just hasn’t happened for me yet. I’m a non-confrontational type of lady but if you push my buttons I can become a pit bull! I'd remembered him from a while back when he tried to hit on me at Walmart and we talked briefly until I realized what a moron he was.

He still insisted something was wrong and asked me my age and I told him and asked him his age. He told me then I asked him if he was married and of-coarse I got no answer and he avoided the question probably because he was clearly NOT married. I guess it’s okay for him to be single and unmarried, but there is no way a woman like me can be single without there being a problem with me. He then asked, “How much money he gotta make? As if my being single has anything to do with a man not making a certain amount of money for me to be with him.“ I was appalled because I know firsthand that I don’t judge a guy by how much money he makes I go by the way he treats me. While there is nothing wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and wanting more than some men can offer, that’s not the way I determine a man’s value or worth. That’s not the way I determine anyone’s value or worth to be frank.

This know it all then proceeded to ask my friend if she was married and she too said no. He then said what’s wrong? You’re a beautiful black woman and not married? As he stood there 44 years old with no ring on his finger either by the way. Now after just speaking to him for the short time I did, I didn’t NEED to ask him why he’s single because his egotistical mentality already answered the question for me. To sum it up, he’ s a self-inflated ego having jerk who has to be-little and down grade others to compensate for his own short comings because he’s insecure and wants to feel important.


This guy obviously has issues and he has nothing better to do with his time than to try to make others feel bad.
In today’s world where women are available three to one man or higher, the fact that our selection of intelligent men are limited to those who are close-minded, self-centered and so busy analyzing all the females to the point of totally turning us off. This guy was literally pointing his finger at us as being the reason we’re both not married. There is no way it’s the men that’s the problem many times right? I personally can’t stand a know it all man who feels his way is always right and if you don’t agree YOU’RE the problem. This all started from my god son needing a simple haircut and me walking in with a beautiful a smile. Now who really has the problem me or him?


Now this isn’t for the men who know how to love and embrace a female and not appoint blame on her inability to fine a husband for whatever reason but this is for those guys who think they got all the answers just as single as ever themselves. It’s time to grow up and stop spreading the negative energy and degrading women. No I don’t have to settle and neither do you but if you share the same issues why not join forces with the female and together find that middle ground that might lead to a healthy fulfilling relationship. Stop being a freaking jerk already! No it’s NOT attractive!



Things men should never do:


1. Act like a know it all and be-little a females character because you think you can. I personally find it disturbing that a man would be ready to attack even perfectly innocent strangers to prove his immature point.

2. Asking why a female isn’t married and saying SHE has a problem when you aren’t even married yourself. Need I say more?

3. Asking a female on a date after you’ve just insulted her. Yes this jerk asked my friend out after he’d said she and I must have a problem and there must be something wrong with us since we aren’t married.

4. Be defensive instead of charming. How can you get a woman if you’re running them all away with attacks? Save the drama for your baby’s mama!

5. Have something to say to every female that crosses your path. Because of your need to feel important, you tend to throw things out there trying to make women feel uncomfortable and inadequate. This is more than likely because you and this phony confidence you try to display isn’t the real you. The real you actually feels uncomfortable and inadequate as well. Is there a reason you don’t ask the men in the barbershop why they aren’t married considering none of the four of you had wedding rings.

I just had to get this out. Thanks for stopping by.

How to Feel Sexy & Vibrant Even With A Li’l Baby Fat (VIDEO)

 Hello everyone, I'm here with a post that I thought might help shed a little light on how you can still feel sexy and vibrant even after giving birth and having a li'l baby fat! I'm super excited to announce my newest assignment. I have been officially made the " Single Mom Dating Advice Maven For Abiola TV. com Author Abiola Abrams Passionista Playbook Blog! http://www.abiolatv.com/ This is very exciting for me and I've worked crossfuntionally with the lovely Abiola Abrams for about a year and a half as we both hash out dating, love and relationship insight and advice.
Let me share just how awesome Abiola Abrams is she's a TV Host, Author, BBC Correspondent as seen on MTV, VH1, BET, NBC, HBO, FOX, Web TV. Love + Sex Columnist, Empowerment Maven, Lifestyle Journalist, MTV "Made" Teen Dating Empowerment Coach, author of the future bestseller "The Official Bombshell Handbook" and a lifestyle columnist for sites from gURL.com to Yahoo Shine. As seen from Essence Magazine to The New York Times; From VH1 to HBO. The list can go on for days! So happy to be working with her. Now let's get to the post right?


So you had a baby and now you're single and not only are you single but you've gained a little baby fat. How do you get your sexy back. Check out the video below and  see full post here...http://www.abiolatv.com/2011/12/single-mom-dating-advice-mothers-baby-weight-sex-appeal/

7 Reasons Men Just Disappear

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To start off yes I speak from experience. I didn't want to give you this story book introduction or share intimate details about my own personal ordeal so I'm going to just stick to the subject which is; "7 Reasons Men Just Disappear!" Isn't that why you came here? :) Believe it or not men do have reasons for why they do what they do. Now are they going to share all those reasons with you? Not at all as it's much easier to just vanish right? Either way disappearing is never a mature response to anything that may be going on that one finds difficult. I think the best method is to just be honest and up front. I'm not saying share your personal business but just maybe say" Hey this isn't going to work." and keep it moving!

So here we go! After doing some research and analyzing what I've seen, read or experienced over the years, here's my seven reasons why he just dips!

• He met someone else he's more interested in. As in your face as this may seem, it's true! Let me remind you that you're not the only cute girl in the world so if he's met someone else then so be it. I don't suggest begging him to call you or making him explain where you may have gone wrong. Just get over it already because it is what it is.
• He already has someone. Ah Ha! So that's what it was! He was trying to have his cake, ice-cream, cherries, cool whip and caramel syrup and eat it too. Keep in mind this is the guy who has a pretty decent relationship that he doesn't plan on leaving anytime soon yet he tries to fit the play card in occasionally to see if he can get a girl easily should things go sour in his home. Don't get offended if he disappears as he clearly has someone already.
• He just wants sex here and there but you're talking relationship/dating. Hmmmm this guy is not going to invest too much time or money into you and surely not a Never Ending Shrimp date at Red Lobster. He just wants to release his stress now and then. You know have sex at his leisure with NO strings attached? If he knows what he wants and you're already singing to a different tune; say bye bye baby because he's gone!
• He got bored with you. It happens! Men love sports, gadgets, food, cars, excitement and sexy women who are interesting, exciting and fun. If you're dull and dry and seem not to have anything going on that excites his childlike mind, then it's on to the next one! Sorry it happens! Not saying you should change but he got bored sorry! 
• You don't have enough money or klout for him. Did I mean to say that? Yes I did! back in what I'd like to call the good ole days the roles were a bit differently. The man provided the beautiful home, the man paid for the dates most of the time because he wanted to get and keep you; and the man was known for having the fly ride or at least a ride of some sort. Now things have reversed dramatically! There's an old song that Fox, Webbie and lil Boosie performs that says; " She got her own house, she got her own car two jobs works hard she's a bad broad!" These days men want the woman to have it going on so he can sit back and enjoy the privileges of her success! It doesn't help that Beyonce is running round offering to upgrade her man so these guys are wanting the same thing. I'm sure he'll pay to take you out occasionally but you best be ready to cover the tab too Mrs. independent or he's dipping!
• He may be interested in both women and men. Yes I said it! Move over sexy lady, this man's bringing a little something extra that just might take your place! As bold as that may sound it's true. These days it's almost expected to see women and men who are not only attracted to the opposite sex, but they are attracted to the same sex as well and if your new boo suddenly disappears, it may be to head over to chill with that special male friend of his. If you get my drift! It's just sex right? Umm Hmmm!
• He just wants to be friends and you already picking out the wedding gown! Girlfriend please stop talking and planning, you just went on one date! While I know you like to share your visions and talk about what you're looking for in a man, he just may not be feeling it and off he goes! Many times men want to see that you can hang with each other and have fun without being made to feel he's to show up one day with an engagement ring. If you're all bubbly about this new love affair and he's not, bye bye sweetie he's outta here!

Don't get me wrong this is only a small fraction of the many reasons men just disappear and I don't have my psychological hat on right now so breaking it down in a chemical imbalance format isn't going to happen today. But I hope you got the picture on why he may have just stopped calling and coming by. Until next time my loves peace!

Tinzley Bradford

Wondering Why He Never Called?

I came across an interesting article on "matched.com" that gave some pretty good insight on a few reasons why some men don't call us ladies back after a second date. While I'm certain there are tons more reasons, the few shared in this article came as a very interesting surprise. It may not be that he's intimidated by us either even though this is what's been given many times as his reason for not showing interest. It could be something as simple as how you bite into your chicken or the way you laugh. Yes some guys are picky too! See full article here. .match.com