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Sunday, April 20, 2014

Is Your Spouse for You or Hating on You?

The last thing you or anyone needs is a spouse who DOESN'T support your dreams and who is secretly envious of your success. The question of the day is "How Can You Tell if Your Spouse is or you or Against You?"

I have observed a lot of couples where one of them may be super successful and the other one is well... not super successful. What happens many times is either they break up because the insecure one can't handle it and the super successful one is NOT willing to jeopardize their career and back down or the super successful one backs down from the spot light just to placate to the needs of an insecure jealous spouse! One thing I look for in a potential mate is someone who is just as excited about my accomplishments and dreams as I am and who support me more than "I" support myself! I figure why be with someone who is hating on you for having that go getter attitude and living your dreams? I mean we all have the same 24 hours and what one chooses to do with their time is up to them. If they knew they couldn't handle a strong successful person then wonder why they married them? No one should ever be made to feel they are wrong because they have become a success and in my opinion this should motivate the not so successful one to get up, get out and get something going for themselves so that THEY too can fulfill their destiny without feeling like they will always be in the successful one's shadow.

I had this guy tell me after he realized I was a writer, was working on a book and did frequent video vlogs, that he couldn't date me because I'd be too busy writing and posting and not to mention he doesn't want to be on TV.He also said I'd have to put that "hobby" to bed. Oh yes he called it a hobby! He just had this big vision as if he and I had established an exclusive relationship. I was like dude you and me are still in the dating process but what you just told me has sealed the deal.... I can't have a man who can't deal with the possibilities of where I'm headed! So I politely ended the romance and wrote a blog! LOL See I could already tell that this would become a huge problem for this guy should I had decided to move forward in this relationship and then I'd be asking myself "What the hell was I thinking?" Knowing he'd already told me he couldn't handle it but I still continued to date him? I'm holding my own self back doing that! So what are some of the signs that a non-supportive jealous spouse displays?

I have included a few below but I'm sure there are far more.

 1. They are constantly in competition with you. Instead of doing things together and including you they are always trying to outdo you then make wise cracks in regards to your current success status as if to blow themselves up and be-little you. Let the games begin!

 2. They are always afraid that you'll meet someone along your successful journey who may be more in tune with what you like and are more interesting than them. They have created this false accusation that you're cheating simply because of your success. Look out for this type!

 3. They feel inadequate and mention this often. Instead of working on their goals and dreams, they sit and act like you're wrong for achieving yours and being so much more successful than them.

 4. They can be very possessive mainly because of the jealousy. They don't want anyone else to have you but them. They don't even want you to spend time with your family and friends let alone co-workers and business partners.

 5. They want you to fail so that you can spend more time with them. They don't know HOW to work on themselves so they sit and stress out over everything you're doing that takes the attention away from them. 

6.The talk about you negatively with other people you both know and you have to hear about it through the “Grapevine.” That's not a good feeling.

 7. They are insecure with themselves.

 8. They always try to talk you out of your dreams and any business move you believe would better your career.

 My advice to you is do not allow anyone to break you down and keep you from living your dreams because they are too insecure to live theirs. If they can't handle your success then they need to create their own or get out of your way so you can live and enjoy your life. Tinzley B

Saturday, April 12, 2014

I Know You Have a Man But We Can Be Friends Right?

The word friend is defined in Websters dictionary as "A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations." Notice in the definition it starts with saying "a person whom one KNOWS?" So when you know someone typically for a long period of time, and there is a close bond between you and this person then this can be defined as a friend right? So can someone please tell me why is it that when some men approach some females showing interest in her and she advises him that she is already in a committed relationship, many guys respond saying.."Well can't we just be friends?" Ummmm NO!

 Reason being is the last time I checked, you can't appoint a friendship it just happens over time. So can you please stop saying you just want to be friends when you KNOW your mission is to do far more with her/ us? You're hoping that she will still get your number or give you hers so that you can try and spit some mac daddy skills on her and convince her that even though she's taken.... there's nothing wrong with going out to eat right? There's nothing wrong with going to a movie right? There's nothing wrong with laying in the same bed at night right? Oh there's nothing wrong with you grabbing her buttocks and squeezing her boobs rights? Yal are just friends? There's nothing wrong with her removing her skirt and you your pants right? I mean face it, you started out attracted to her and was your goal to only be friends when you first laid eyes on her or were you trying to possibly pursue her in hopes that it would turn into a lifelong relationship? Let me make this nice and clear. I HAVE ENOUGH FRIENDS ALREADY SO I DON"T NEED ANYMORE!

 I was at the gas station the other day and after I'd pumped my gas and was rapidly walking back to my car, this guy yelled "Hey pretty Lady where your man at?" Now usually I won't say this but even though I'm single and have no man I responded "I'm trying to get to him now!" Now in my head I'm thinking okay I've defused this situation, dude will see I'm not interested and he'll go on about his business. Well it didn't happen quite that way. He decided to approach me, stood at my car window hollering" Well can't we just be friends?" I responded, "Well don't you have to know each other to be friends?" I mean I don't know you!" He went on to say " Come on baby, give me your number. I'm not trying to mess things up between you and your man I just want to hang out sometimes. Don't you want a friend?" I said "No I actually already have enough friends and gave him the stare of doom! He walked away and headed back to the packed car of dudes he was hanging out with and do you know this man proceeded to yell "Come on baby just give me your number or take mine and call me once so I can at least feel you like me a little, he ended with... ugly men are in style now!" I felt sorry for him and drove off!

 I have to ask men this question and I want an honest answer. Why is it when a female tells you she's already in a relationship or has a boyfriend, many of you ask if you can just be friends? What does that really mean? Just be friends.... Do you mean the kind of guy who comes and changes your tire if you get a flat? Do you mean the kind of guy who helps you move heavy furniture when you're re-locating Do you mean the kind of guy who changes your oil for you so you won't have to spend a whole lot of money at Jiffy Lube? What's YOUR definition of "Let's just be friends?" Let me take a wild guess..... You want to screw? Did I nail it? Am I right? Get over it she's already taken! You know my views, if you run into a guy trying to be "friends" after he knows you already have a man, NEXT!!!! The truth of the matter is he just wants to hunch and screw and hunch and screw and hunch some more at his leisure. It's no such thing as THIS type of friend in reality, he could care less that you're already taken. he knows what he wants for the moment and he'll keep trying you until all your NO's turns into a couple of yes's. The next thing you know, you're cheating on your guy. Do yourself a favor ladies.....Don't "Just Be Friends" with any man who know KNOW has a hidden agenda! Tell em NEXT!! Tinzley B



Are you ready to master the art of dating because you have just had it with failed relationships? How about being content with your singleness until you meet that special someone? There is a reason to this madness and many times, it's due to the behavior that WE allow! I have mastered the art of removing the chaos from my dating world and you can too! This book holds the secret ingredients that women need to use in order to minimize the many unnecessary complications we are often faced with while simply dating and seeking a lifelong mate. 

Dating does NOT have to be complicated anymore. This book will educate you on how you should handle the day to day BS in the land of dating that many times leaves us wanting to just give up! I give it to you just as it is with no filters because women…..you need to know! It’s time out for settling, it’s time out for the bad behavior and acceptance of mediocrity just so you won’t feel alone. It’s time to hold ourselves and these guys accountable and flip the script a bit. No more allowing bad behavior. No more being judged on your looks from Bubba and lil Spanky! No more overlooking the signs. No more playing mama! No more trying to be open-minded to his BS! No more BS. No more pain and suffering because he broke down your self-esteem. No more excuses! No more being a fool for love! No more playing the MALE role, it’s time to make HIM be the man he was born to be.

Change the behavior......Change your life! 

Tinzley B
Author of And You Wanna See My Feet


Thursday, January 30, 2014

Why Are You Still Single? Is This Question Overheard?

Why Are You Still Single? This question seems to be overheard by many singles like me I'm sure you can agree. My questions is, does there have to be a specific reason? Maybe we have many reasons why we are still single right? I thought I'd put together a video vlog pointing-out why myself and I'm certain many singles have not tied the knot and gotten married nor are they in a committed relationship.

While I'm okay being single and enjoying life, I didn't plan on it and I actually would love to be hitched with a great guy. My purpose for this vlog is I'm starting be made to feel that some people look down on or judge those who are still single especially when they are 30 and older. Has anyone noticed this?  They are  like you're still single? WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU? I'm like, NOTHING IT JUST HASN'T HAPPENED FOR ME YET?

What are your views on this subject? If you're single I'd love to hear why and if you're not, I'd love your views on why you believe many people are still single. Thanks for stopping by and have a great day!

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