Here They Come, too Late Buddy!

Can I ask why is it when you're single and you've been trying to find true love; the search seems to be endless and there are no good candidates? You meet guys who either don't want what you want or who only want what they want that you happen to not want! (Did that make sense? Hmmm)  Then the moment you find a good one who you plan on getting to know more about, who seems to be a pretty nice guy, who shows interest in you with out you having to beat it out of him, everyone single guy you could imagine comes out of no where trying to want you?

 I have gotten calls from guys I haven't spoken to in months suddenly wanting to know how I'm doing. One guy said he just wanted to hear my sweet voice and would love to rub baby oil on my buttocks. OMG! Give me a break! Can someone please tell me what's wrong with em? I mean really, baby oil?

Tinzley Bradford

How to not sabotage a relationship

In case you haven't read my other post titled, " Cause He is the Truth"  I am proud to share that Monday will make three weeks for me and Mr. "The Truth" being into each other. Pretty impressive for a gal like me who is known to cut men short quick the moment he gets on my nerves or shows no constant signs of interest.Be gone!

I noticed a slight difference in the way I'm dealing with this guy. It's as if I've developed this unusual amount of patience and acceptance to deal with things that usually has me annoyed and turned off and sends men packing. I'm so excited that I thought I'd write about it. I realized that it's okay if a guy isn't perfect or if he's not the "usual" type you would date. I've come up with some ways I feel will keep you from sabotaging a possibly good relationship by just being plain unreasonable. Poor thing, he's just trying. Now if he's a loser and you know it, get him! LOL

1. If he's still wearing Fubu sneakers sky blue denim jeans and Southpole attire, wait don't lose it and tear him down so bad that he would prefer to show up naked than dare to show up and be verbally abused by you. Just ask yourself, does clothes make him a good man? What's he been doing since you two met that his Fubu shoes has anything to do with? I know that you maybe a fashion queen who wants a man beside you to compliment you as well.  I can suggest just gradually show him items that you think he would look nice in and maybe he will gradually break away from the early 90's get up. Jump! Jump! Kriss Cross will make you Jump! Jump! Arghhh!!!


2. Okay, you've began to notice he laughs like a member of the mother's board at your church and although he's still a pretty young guy, he reminds you of that deacon at your church who always runs the Saturday Barbecue church fundraisers. Nice and kind, but rather corny. Try to not allow this to make you look at him with pure "OMG you're so lame I'm out of here!" This may make him feel bad, he's only human but he happens to like you. Maybe he's just an old fashion kind of guy, but how does he treat you? Does his laugh have anything to do with those nice breakfasts and dinners you've both been going to? How about the time he came over and made you breakfast at your home? Hmmm, might want to not run this one away. Just laugh with him and secretly laugh to yourself about his corny ways, it may actually begin to bring you great joy in your life. Maybe tell him" Hey you laugh funny." And see how he reacts he may laugh even harder and the two of you can then have this joke about his laugh that may bring you closer.  At least you have something to laugh about, which means he's calling you and you're constantly talking unlike the other guy who wanted to make it a block buster night after only 5 minutes of knowing you online. Arghhhh!( See blog "Have we Met?") 

3. It seems like too much too soon. He just keeps talking about the future and the two of you together, and marriage and blah blah blah freaking blah!  While I can understand how it may appear to be too soon for this kind of conversation, it's actually quite pleasant to know that he not only likes you, but can see you as potential "wife material." Isn't that what you want?  Just continue to move slow and keep an eye on what he does, not just what he says,  does he keep his word? It's important to remember that guys who want to marry you all fast may have a hidden agenda, but guys who simply talk about it may just want you to know that they are looking for more than just a weekend fling from you and you should be happy especially if you too are in search of a good man who may someday become your husband. Too many times I hear guys say" Oh I'm not really looking for anything right now and blah blah blah freaking blah." Well I am, be gone! It's nice to meet a guy who wants the same thing you want and is not afraid to talk about it. Take it slow but don't run him off out of fear he's trying to get in and ride your coat tail to success. Because you know you have it going on! Go Girl! LOL

4. Another thing I can suggest is to make him feel just as good as he makes you feel. If he says hey baby, you can say hey sweetie! If he texts you with sweet things, it's okay to reply back occasionally with a nice note back to him. Don't go crazy with it wear every 5 minutes you're texting things to him like; I like you, I'm glad we met, am I on your mind, am I pretty to you?  Calm down honey!  Just do things to let him know you're interested too. Men like to know they are wanted as well; if not they tend to stray towards a woman who shows them attention back. Even if it's that Fire Fire! You know what I mean!

5. Please don't ask him for money already or start spreading the news that your phone bill is do. Ultimate turn off! I mean you wouldn't want him coming to you with that type of issue would you? So why should he play captain save a girl? Men are going to do what they feel lead to do. I mean, you've been keeping it paid so keep showing that independence and if it gets cut off, let him offer. Don't just make him feel like now that you have been knowing each other every bit of three weeks; he's got to show you the money! If he likes you, trust me he will do little things with out you having to say a word. Who knows, it may start being bigger things, but don't just expect it right away! "You got ten dollars I can borrow til payday?" Not cute!


I can honestly say that these things I mentioned are things I've been doing that has made me and this guy stay connected and look forward to seeing each other more. I don't plan on sabotaging this relationship if it  continues to evolve, but you know me. I'm still Tinzley who started this blog so don't even try me buddy. You just may find out the hard way, WHY I started this blog. Thank you for visiting and please come again. Remember, don't let him see your feet until you're ready!

Tinzley Bradford

I Found A New Love and His Name Is "Vingenzos"

I know you're wondering how this has anything to do with relationships and dating, and most of all why am I writing about Vingenzos on my relationship blog? Well I'm in love with this place and it's also a great place to take a date, so there you have it.The other day I was watching Good Day Atlanta on Fox Five road warrior segment. The news reporter was highlighting a restaurant which I'd never heard of called "Vingenzos." Clip from show: http://tinyurl.com/27ccka3


I immediately took an interest because I told myself I'm going to start being more adventurous.What I loved about this place was the fresh food that comes straight from the garden and farm to the table, no prepackaged food shipped in. I was very much interested in trying it out especially after I saw the pictures of the meals on camera. It looked beautiful and I wanted some right then and there. The next day I told one of my good friends about it  and we decided to take a road trip all the way to Woodstock, where this restaurant is located. Directions: http://tinyurl.com/26sggak


When we got there we were met with a very nice, clean, classy (not over the top) warm down home place. I also noticed the chef walking around personally getting peoples feedback about the food. Not to mention he was featured on the actual segment on Good Day Atlanta. Our waitress "Bree" was outstanding! She pleasantly described the food and what we'd expect from each dish we inquired about, impressive.

I decided to start off with a salad so I chose the "Insalata Mediterranea"  which has Spinach,Roma Tomatoes, Cerignola Green Olives, Red Onions and Oregano topped with a Balsamic Vinagrette . It was so good and I actually cleaned the plate.

I then decided to try the pizza and ordered whats called the "Regina" it comes with San Marzano Tomato Sauce, Latte Fresco Mozzarella, House Made Sausage, and Wild Mushrooms and Basil. I felt like I was in heaven from the first bite you can just taste the freshness and the richness of the dishes.

Wow! Is all I can say this trip was so far very worth it. Not to mention the chef came over to our table to personally brag about how he made every single recipe himself and how he just knows that no one can top him. I loved his confidence. He dared us to try dessert. So I wanted something different for dessert. And Bree our waitress was excellent she knew every dessert detail by hard and was able to sell us on this "Torta Caprese" it's a Flourless Chocolate Almond Cake. Hmmm Flourless? I tried it and it melted in my mouth. It was so original like nothing I every tasted, little bits of almond chips. Soft and easy to eat and the chocolate. OMG it was immaculate!Chef even threw in one of his House Made Gelatos which complimented the cake well. I don't know why he just gave it to us. ( I think he liked me!) LOL

I had the best time and I can honestly say if you're looking for some outstanding food that's fresh and excellent service,  "Venginzos" is the place for you I highly recommend this place. The service and food and environment is great and not to mention the managers walk around and hand deliver plates to customers as well. Talk about great, outstanding, and awesome, they get it! See me and chef below.Go visit them!

Tinzley Bradford

Cause He is the Truth

I'm sure many of you who read my blogs know that they usually consist of unpleasant experiences that I have had with a guy during my quest for love. He either did something dumb or didn't do anything at all. I am no nonsense and very upfront about anything that makes me cringe as far as dating is concerned.



Well I'm happy to say I recently met a guy who so far seems to know what he wants and takes the time to let me know what he wants. We have been talking everyday since we met. This guy makes me smile and comforts my mood.  He has shown nothing but interest in me since day one and this means a lot. You know my stance on it, you either want me or you don't. He recently asked me to meet him for breakfast and I accepted.


On this very special morning, I was met with a single red rose (actual rose in pic) and a Twix candy bar. (I'm impressed) Mainly because he thought enough to take the time to do something sweet for me. I remember earlier in the week, I mentioned one of my favorite sweets was Twix candy bars and he remembered. (That's says to me he listened , and cared about what I was saying.) I'm going to continue to take it slow and see where it goes, but I just wanted to share that good things come to those who don't just accept or settle for anyone. I'm feeling pretty darn good about this thing. Hmmmm?

Tinzley B

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How to install your own car battery. Ladies, this is for you!!!!

I was driving on my way home recently when I met eyes with this guy as he was driving. I knew I was about to get off and he gestured me to so we could exchange numbers. He got out of his truck and was a perfect gentleman, He introduced himself, we shook hands and even chatted for a few minutes. He proceeded to share with me that he's a certified mechanic and I'm like cool right on time! My car was in need of stud replacement that was stripped and broken off by a road side assist guy/ I don't know what the crap I'm doing.

Anyway, we exchanged numbers and began to speak on the phone more and more. He continued to state he thinks I'm beautiful and wants to see a lot more of me. I was feeling the same until he said he had four kids by three different women. Needless to say, I felt well as long as he takes care of them and their in his life, i don't want to judge him. ( Even though it was clearly hard not to, four kids WT?)

He offered to repair my car and said stuff like I wouldn't have to worry about things like that as long as he's around. I allowed him to come over the following Friday to perform repairs. In the back of my mind I'm thinking, "Oh well he will come over here and not be able to do it and I will just send him packing." Then I was impressed when he came over and knocked the job out in less than an hour. I paid him for the job as well despite him not wanting to take the money because he "liked" me. (Whatever!)

I really began to admire him from that point on and really thought he was genuine.We had already made plans to go out after HE asked me and said he would like to take me out. So Saturday came and he never called until late late Saturday night. Finally I texted and asked if I was being stood up. His excuse," I was working on a car!" Aw excuse me, did I miss something? You offered to take me out and you're standing me up because you're working on a car?

I just don't get it at all, I mean who does that? Then he had the nerve to say he would help me with my battery when he has a minute, I'm like oh no you won't do that to me again. So what did I do? I learned how to install my own freaking car battery.  I can't wait til he calls with a lame excuse, I'm going to totally read him. Moron! ( I have since met someone much better anyway, Ha!) I will blog about it soon.

Anyway, check out my video on how to install a car battery. Ladies this is for you as well, if he doesn't act right show him just how much he's NOT needed! Enjoy!

Tinzley Bradford

So Why Do I Blog? Good Question!

I just wanted to clarify the purpose of this blog. I write about many of my relationship experiences and voice my strong opinion about them. But why do I do it? Well, I believe that relationships and the expectations we have around them, when those expectations aren't met; problems arise. I hope that women and men can read my posts and get something from it, maybe even apply a different approach to the same or similar experience in their own lives. There is an opinion about you and how you treat people when dating or just in relationships period.

I'm hoping that expressions of frustrations can and will continue to permeate change to the way in which men treat women when trying to date or get to know them. There is a price to pay when you go about things in an unappealing way and there will be a blog somewhere being composed on your behalf.

I believe too many people try to create their own rules when dating, (and yes there are rules). How can you expect something for nothing? At the end of the day and in everything you do, the amount of effort you put into something, will determine it's outcome. That's with everything you do in life, work, school, making friends and yes relationships and dating never for get that. Let me repeat that, "The amount of effort you put into something, will determine it's outcome." The question of the day is," How can you expect something, for nothing?" I'd like your feedback, and many people unconsciously expect something for nothing every single day. Share your thoughts and thanks for stopping by!

Tinzley Bradford

Finally a little insight from a mans perspective, Why they do what they do?

Today was awesome! I auditioned for my OWN TV show on Oprah and Marks OWN network. I believe I did good I was a bit nervous but I must say I met some very talented great people. One in particular was Jack Daniels, and yes that is his real name. His show idea was pretty much about everything I often speak about.
" Why men do what they do?" I loved it and have added the link to my page. This looks like it will answer a lot of questions us women have about guys and why they do what they do. Check it out and the book looks interesting You may need to purchase one. http://www.themanshandbook.com/index.htm