I'm Good at Getting Men to Want Me, Just Not To Want To Marry Me...Anyone Have Similar Issues?

I am single and my last long term relationship was in my early twenties. Can't quite determine what it is I may be missing if anything, but I can say many women are good at getting men to want them. Not want to marry or want to date them, but just want them. What helps me now and what has in the pass is, focusing on my good qualities and the good qualities in the man I'm seeing at the time.If we can see eye to eye on most things, then that's a great sign. If we develop a true, unconditional friendship then that's another great sign. If I voice my opinion ( wrong or right ) and he goes ham on me, then that's a bad sign. I think that's the problem I'm having, no one wants to truly listen anymore, they don't want to talk, and I do. They don't want to get to the root cause yet I do, and that causes problems.


Too many times, men want what they want and they expect you to provide it and they expect it fast. Some men aren't sensitive to women's needs and therefore ours may go un-noticed, yet when we try to share you are looked at as a nagger. I get that a lot, they want you to just allow things to happen. It seems even if you aren't happy with the way things are going. They want you to just zip it, and say nothing just deal with it. Some times you can, but sometimes you can't.I can't just do that, I'm more than just a slave to a relationship.

I've been running into men who right away expect wife material before a friendship has ever been established. They want great sex, good food, and little or no talking. I find that hard to just do right away, all because someone wants me to. Where is the compromise?


It could be a two way street, he may be missing something .That's why friendship is important, and if he likes being around me he would know I like being around him.
A good friend would see that and these days, no one seems to want to build a friendship first.They just want sex, food, and a maid. It's so much more involved. I mean I got a pedicure, couldn't be my toes aren't cute enough. LOL

I'm going to leave it at this, and unknown author wrote," The best kind of friend is one who can sit with you and not say a word, and when they walk away, you feel completely understood." That's how relationships should be.

What ever happened to dating?

Tinzley Bradford

This Video is Why I'm So Tough On Men, Once You View it..share Your Thoughts...

I tell you, this is too funny the way OPrettyboy 1 put this video together. He pretty much means, the more babies, the more welfare so why not? I think Welfare should be there to help short term, but not to abuse. Watch and enjoy !! And think about it ladies, next time you decide to lay down with a dude. This song should play in your head...

Tinzley B

So, Why Do Men Want Women They Can't Have? Does This Sound Familiar Ladies?

I visited (luvemorleavem.com)yesterday and came across what Tina ( site owner ) calls the video tip of the day. The female on the video was giving advise on how to get a boyfriend. It was interesting when she said the way top get men is to quit men. According to her analysis, many men want women they know they can't have.

Interesting isn't it? Why not go for the one who is sitting there smiling clearly showing she's single, available, and interested? Instead of the woman who has,' don't even think about it, written all over her face. You know that woman who says," I don't want no man right now!" or "I don't need a man for anything." or even," I am in a relationship already."

I don't know , I guess it's the challenge of having to try and get someone who has made it clear they don't want you, or they are already taken. Sort of like a game right? Which explains why so many fellows love video games and sports. They even like making choosing a mate into a game. Hmmm... interesting. It's no wonder, many females who love sports, or say they do, often have no problems getting a boyfriend.( Go Falcons Go !!! )

Anyway, back to the topic.Why is it not important to see a female clearly wanting to date a man, but she is brushed off so he can go after the one who has written men completely off? What does it take to get a man to want you back, simply because, well, you want him? Do they come across as weak or desperate or something?

I would like to hear from honest men, who don't mind admitting they enjoy a challenge. I would like to know why you want or go after women you can't have? Ladies, your comments and opinions are welcome as well.


Tinzley B

The Foot Fetish, Is It Just A " Male" Thing?

This photo is of this mans foot who proudly exposed it wearing thong flip flops. Wonder if his woman has cute toes? Wonder if he expects her to despite his wicked ones?

I had a conversation with a guy I ran into last night as he was towing my car. I think my curiosity is what caused me to ask him this question. I asked him, what does he think about women’s feet? Do they have to be a certain way or be pretty or cute before he'd be interested in her?

His response was to him, feet play a huge role in him being attracted to a female. While he stated that's not all he looks at, he said he doesn't want to suck on ugly toes with corns, and or bunions on them.

I then asked him if he has nice feet. His response was, well, aww, I mean they are decent and all. I asked him if he has corns and bunions. His response was he has two corns and one bunion. Interesting I said, he added the fact that he was a man, so you know.

I said no I don't know, I mean was he saying the fact that he's a man justifies him having hammer toes? And was he also saying that this was to him an acceptable excuse? So his woman has to be stuck sucking on a dried up corn? I find this equally as interesting and when I probed for more I was conveniently cut off from completing my analysis of the conversation. In other words, he didn't no how to deem it justifiable, he just knows he wants his woman to have cute toes, even though his were screaming hammer time.

So I have to ask, men do you feel it's okay for you to have corns, bunions, or claw toes, but the women you chose to date can not? Ladies, how important is this for you in a man? Should his toes be suck able as well?


Tinzley B

Just what is the "Male Role" in a relationship?

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I'm sure we've all heard it before and at some point maybe even said it. “Does he know what his role is as the man of this relationship?" Yes there is an expectation women have that they feel men are suppose to not only know about, but also meet this expectation. But what if he doesn't know he ever had one? The question is, just what the “male role?” is

When a woman meets a guy, should he be actively seeking ways to impress her? Example, If you've been dating for a while and he knows you are in the process of moving, should he show up and began disassembling beds, loading up sofas, and helping you move? Or should he just take it easy and you go hire a moving company? The question is, what would you do if he wasn't in the picture? Yet what should he do now that he is?

Another example is, if you meet a man and he runs a landscaping company. You are one of his customers and for some reason you two began to date, should he stop charging you and just do your yard for free? Or should you two begin your possible journey to love, yet you hand him fifty bucks each time he does your yard? The question is if you two hit it off will you still have to hire a lawn guy?

What about washing the car? Should you expect your new sweetie to take care of the car or should you just schedule your routine detail at the local car wash? Would he think you were needy if you asked him to do it? Or would he think you were too independent if you didn't?

There used to be a time when if a man was trying to win you over, the three things he would do hands down is wash your car, mow your lawn, and take out your trash. Now it's like asking some men to donate a kidney to get them to do these things. I had a guy tell me I'm so pretty, he wants to be with me, he knows we could be good together and blah blah blah freaking blah, but when I asked him to mow it, he somehow disappeared.

So, just what is the “Male Role?” In a world where Beyonce says, "Let me upgrade you." Do you think men are waiting to be upgraded? So therefore they don't wash the car, take out the trash, help you move or even mow the lawn anymore?

I would love to know, ladies and gentlemen, what do you think? Should women expect these things occasionally? Or should we be looking to mow your lawn and providing you with BBF cuff links?

I have taken time to closely analyze things men should be able to do in order to have a successful relationship. I have noticed that problems seem to arise when these valuable things are missing.

1. Listen, and really take it in. Too many times I have dated guys who only hear what they want to hear when I'm talking. They draw their own assumptions on what they think I mean never truly understanding it clearly. This causes problems, listen to what's being said, and try to walk in her shoes.

2. Provide for your lady. I understand we all have to crawl before we walk, and now a day’s times are hard so being able to provide for an over the top life style may be asking a bit too much. But if you are a man in a relationship, you should be able to provide for an adequate lifestyle and not be 38 years old and unable to take your lady out, help pay for the household expenses, and occasionally have extra money to spoil your lady with a nice gift here and there. Trust me, she does expect that whether she says it or not.

3. Be a do it yourselfer. In a world where it can be quite costly to have manual work done on your house, it can be even more costly if you have tom call a repair man for every single thing. I mean what does a lady need a man for? Men, try to learn basic fix it things around the house that could not only impress your lady, but save the both of you money. (And this does include mowing the lawn.)

4.Don’t just say you're going to do it, actually mean it. Nothing annoys me more than having to constantly remind my man to do something he said he was going to do. I know life happens and we all get busy, but you weren't too busy to sit down with the fellows and watch football, you weren't too busy to put that new turbo engine in your "play car," and you weren't too busy to get that new game system installed, so don't be too busy to help clear the garage out so she can set up her little project she's been delaying, because you've been too busy to help.

5. Don't forget the little things. Okay, your lady just said she doesn't feel good and she is lying in the bed beside you and not getting any better. This is not the time for sex, trust me; can you please go and get her something to make her feel better? Yes, that means you will have to get up, put on clothes, and maybe even go out to get it, but guess what, she will love you forever and never forget it. This shows her what you are willing to do just to make her feel better and it goes very far.

6. Be a man. Please all you clear fingernail polish, and gelled hair wearing guys no offense, but come on now nothing like that rough neck who doesn't mind getting his hands dirty, he doesn't mind being loud while watching football, he will still wear that shirt with the big ole school college logo on it and he will go outside and play in the dirt with the family pet. Oh that's so attractive to me, maybe it's just me but, metrosexuals played out with the dinosaurs, give me a man!!


These were just a few things that I know I would enjoy in a man and it would have me hooked for life. And notice I didn't even mention how well he is in the bedroom, which shows it isn't all about that. Being a man is one thing, but knowing your role and being a good man is what it takes to get the same in a woman.

Tinzley Bradford

Men, you either want me or you don't, keep it real or keep it moving

I have the right stop calling you if I'm no longer interested in you. I have the right to tell you if you are a jerk and that I will no longer be going out with you. I have the right to look at you and decide you are not my type.Yes I have the right. It bothers me, when some men began bashing females who are just telling it like it is. I mean when a female shares how she feels about dating and her bad experiences, many men get upset and they start to team up in effort to I guess back her against the wall of shame.Example,when a female says something like, it's tough finding a good man;instead of someone saying well if I had the chance, I would change your mind. I recently met this guy and he says to me I like you and I want to be with you. He says I can get used to being with you every day, I want to date you can we date? You are so pretty I'm surprised you don't have a man and you are just my type strong, focused, together blah blah blah freaking blah..... So I began to interrogate him, rightfully so.. I mean he said all these things, but can and will he stand behind it?


I asked him all the questions anyone with sense, would ask a man talking all this bull crap..I asked the what, the when, the where, the how and of course the who...Let me tell ya, he couldn't handle it. I could have been the average female, who hears all these fake promises, and allowed my emotional rollercoaster to kick in. I then would have kissed, hunched, and well you know. But I chose not to,see I'm all about keeping it real or keeping it moving. ( he was having a tough time keeping it real.So why would I engage in such behavior just because he said all those sweet things to me??

Just aso you knw, he never called again once he saw I wasn't an easy target. So you tell me, was I being hard on him or was he just a jerk looking for a cheap thrill?
Well not on my watch....

Blog By Tinzley Bradford

And You Wanna See My Feet ? You got a foot fetish, man please..

Why do some men ask to see your feet and often use it to determine if you're the one? I mean what about trying to determine if you're a "good woman?"

In this photo is a mans rear end,this juicy mess, shows no reason for this man to wanna see any one's feet. With a wedgie that deep...He needs to go rent a bull dozier to get that out.I'd like to see him in a pair of speedoes...or maybe not.

The thing is, this is real. Despite his lame figure, many men seem to feel that it's okay for them to be built this way, as long as their woman isn't. What gives him room to judge? There's definately no room in those trousers.



Okay ladies,fellows I'm sorry I just have to be honest. Why do we as females go all out to be beautiful and sexy? We put on sexy lingerie,we get our nails done, we smell good, we take pride in our appearance, and we love being desirable. This gives guys a larger variety, when they are selecting a woman.Then what choices do we have? We got shake that thing like a salt shaker up there to choose from.I mean that man got more but than me!!!


I am quite annoyed with having to deem myself worthy of a man who isn't all that handsome himself, , trying to tell me how he wants me to look, when he is coming no where near my standards, and my standards really aren't that high. Some people think I'm bitter, I'm not actually. What I am is just speaking how I feel. This is my experience with some guys. Sorry if it's hard to agree.

I mean an example is, I was talking to a guy one day, and just to give a clear visual he had a figure that reminded one of a big round pile of skin, he had a big moon face, and still lived at home with his mother,yet he found room to be picky? "Now I'm not saying I don't date men big, cause I do, but he had the nerve with all that NOT going on for himself, to ask to see my feet. He had the nerve to say and I quote, " You got pretty feet"? He then went on to ask about my legs and whether or not they were pretty. I mean it's okay to have a lil foot fetish and all but what exactly are YOU bringing to the table as far as looks are concerned?

Just like the new show on VH1," Let's Talk About Pep " with Pepa from Salt and Pepa. This jacked up looking guy on there telling her, pretty much warning her that he has a foot fetish. Then wanted her to show him her feet at the dinner table. See what I mean?

So back to the guy I was talking about,I'm like okay, you have got to be kidding me right? You sitting there looking like humpty dumpty couldn't even get on the dog on wall,AND YOU WANNA SEE MY FEET ? Did he realize that he is not necessarily considered" Model Material", and he needs to be happy that any female is even there because I know a few places I could have been. And sharing the car with his stomach, was not on my list of things to do.

The Notorious Big is another example. He was clearly not handsome and certainly was not fine, but he was very choicey with females and the thing is, they allowed this behavior from him. He said it himsel that he was "fat,black, and ugly as ever." My question is, would he want a female who was, " fat, black, and ugly as ever?" Probably not.


I have to wonder, if the tables were turned and I was sitting there looking like him ( not cute), would he have even given me the time a day? Probably not, but he felt my feet and legs needed to meet 'his standard' this really raises my eyebrows, why did he think he could be so picky, but I had to be on point? I'd love to know. WHYyyy ???



And just how many women have been analyzed from head to toe by some wanna be ladies man looking to score a ten, when he is barely making the five spot himself,OKAY! You know I had this one guy say to me, he only dates women with pretty toes and a sexy midriff. I got to looking at him, I mean really looking at him and noticed he had a chipped tooth with root on it( I am not joking there was a cavity on it, his ear lobe was split which meant he once had an earring but now the ear lobe is split, and his booty was so high and big you could use it for a throw pillow. AND HE WANNA SEE MY FEET?

I looked at him and said, a sexy midriff? What is your midriff looking like these days? And a midriff should be the last thing on your mind. Talking bout a sexy midriff, brotha I mean his arrogance was amazing to me! But we as females often allow men to not be that handsome as long as they take care of home. I agree and if you have a good man who takes care of home who isn'y that goodlooking, that's fine because he obvoiusly gets it, that's why you're with him right?

But if he's but ugly,and gonna have the nerve to be picky, tell em get to getting, and fast!

It is time for females to demand a sexy, fine educated man, who takes care of himself the way he often demands that we do. Now I'm not saying don't give the men who aren't that cute or good looking a chance as long as they aren't cocky and they know how to appreciatethe value of most females( pretty feet or not). But what I am saying is when you get this jerk who is sizing you up, ask him to let you see that belly, and them toe jams, ask him to let you see them nappy chest hairs with lint balls in em.( That's right , I said lint balls!)

These are the things we females overlook in a man as long as he is a good man,but believe me the favor WON'T be returned, and if you want a date ladies you just might need a photo of your feet. Cause dude is looking, with his crusty knee caps, pants hanging below his buttocks leaving bootie juice everywhere, riding on a bicycle two sizes too small. AND HE WANNA SEE MY FEET? huh! Try pulling up your pants, and give your lil cousin his bike back please!


Men have gone wild and we have GOT to raise the bar. Ladies, if a man just keeps asking you can he see various body parts, ask him to put on a pair of speedoe's and model for you. Then see his response, if you like it good if not, he needs to never ask to see your toes again.
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I would love to know, men does your woman have to be "hot" even when you are not?

By Tinzley