Stop Blaming Yourself..The More You Trust Yourself, the Less You Doubt Yourself

Hello Everyone, Just a short note about this video I just posted. Are you guilty of appointing blame for why you're single? Does it cause you to distance yourself from loved ones and many times you find yourself looking like a train wreck causing men to not want to date you? it's okay to go through the periods of fear and self doubt, but at some point you have to get over it, stop appointing blame on yourself and live. Check out this video where i share a few tips! The blog will be live soon but for now enjoy the video and please share your thoughts by leaving comments. Remember: The more you trust yourself, the less you doubt yourself!

How to be Single and Happy Right Now! Embrace the Ones Around You....

Well it's our last day in FL and I must say I had the best time with my mom.

Its funny because one would think me being a single female in a place loaded with men, I'd feel like I was in a meat market and carefully be making my selections.

It wasn't like that at all actually I met one guy and he was sweet but I didn't meet anyone who I can say would lead to a long term romance, but I can tell ya there was lots of flirting going on.

Flirting to me is healthy, fun, and shows you still got it! I say if men no longer look at you or drool in a sense, then it might be one if four things:

• They are already taken 

• You are not working it

• They are shy

• Or they prefer a man too! Which means competition for you! LOL

Single ladies you don't have to have a man with you to have fun on a vacation! My mom is 62 years old and when I say we had a lot of fun I mean just that!

Too many times being single causes our hidden co-dependency to kick in and we no longer believe we can have fun around our family and friends especially if we are trying to get our groove back and well, I'm not so sure that would go well with your mother! Sure I know companionship is important and we all want it, but if it's not happening yet make it happen and keep the joy in your life going!

It's important to remember the people who love and support you, who encourage you, and who motivate you many times can turn out to be even more fun than hanging with a "boyfriend" if things aren't really going well in the relationship at the time. I know I personally would never book a trip with someone that I've spent at least three days arguing with for what ever reasons and not resent him occasionally which is bound to take away from the fun of the trip! I hear it too many times, " I don't want to go on a trip without a man!" huh suit yourself!

Now I'm not saying that all couples do is argue, but I am saying I laugh with my mom more than I argue! I laugh more with my best friends and sister more than I argue.

How about a different kind of fun!
We must make the time to love and embrace those around us at this very moment. We must stop feelings of inadequacy simply because at this time we are still single.

Trust me beautiful, your day will come and if you're unhappy with who you are it may just pass you by!

Tinzley B

"Who Makes You Smile Contest" Enter for a chance to win a photo shoot and trip to NY

I am convinced a bright, confident, and beautiful smile can be a deal breaker while dating! Not to offend anyone but two pet peeves of mine is bad breath and horrible teeth! Sorry that's just how I feel! This is why I work to keep my smile bright and hopefully beautiful!

I decided to enter this "Who Makes You Smile Contest" and I need your votes please click below to view my entry and vote for me! You can also enter too! Just click the "Who Makes You Smile" link at the top right of my blog. Did I mention you will also win a $1000.00 gift card to shop? See you there!

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Dating Challenges and how to still feel the love

Hello I wanted to speak more on many of the dating challenges single women in Atlanta have while dating and just single females in general. I also share a few cool ways you can get over being single and do things to make yourself feel good, whether it's treating yourself and spending quality time with those loved ones around you.Being single does NOT make you a non-traditional American it just makes you a single American!

Check out this video!

See Me On TV 11 Alive News Dating Debate, Is ATL The Best City To Date In?

I wanted to share this short clip of me on 11 Alive News as I share a few tips on dating and also what I believe causes so many problems for single women looking to date in the ATL area. Click the link to see the full clip:

11alive.com/video/1451606343001/1/Debate-Is-Atlanta-the-best-city-for-singles

News Anchor Jeff  Hullinger myself and Rebecca live on 11 Alive News

Sex and the Single Mom

How stressed are you when it comes to sex? I know as a single mom you don't want it to appear like you're an easy catch, but you if you want it, get it. Check out this video and see my full blog by clicking the link below.




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   http://www.abiolatv.com/sex-single-mothers-sexuality-love-dating-advice/

The Ego Can Ruin a Mans Chances of Finding True Love



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I went to the barber shop with my friend today and immediately there was this one barber whose ego seemed to be bigger than all three of us combined. The first thing he asks is was I married; well he actually asked us how we were doing first as if he REALLY cared. Upon my answer he went on to say well you’re a very beautiful black lady and you’re not married? There is something wrong with that! What’s wrong? I told him I don’t think it’s something wrong it just hasn’t happened for me yet. I’m a non-confrontational type of lady but if you push my buttons I can become a pit bull! I'd remembered him from a while back when he tried to hit on me at Walmart and we talked briefly until I realized what a moron he was.

He still insisted something was wrong and asked me my age and I told him and asked him his age. He told me then I asked him if he was married and of-coarse I got no answer and he avoided the question probably because he was clearly NOT married. I guess it’s okay for him to be single and unmarried, but there is no way a woman like me can be single without there being a problem with me. He then asked, “How much money he gotta make? As if my being single has anything to do with a man not making a certain amount of money for me to be with him.“ I was appalled because I know firsthand that I don’t judge a guy by how much money he makes I go by the way he treats me. While there is nothing wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and wanting more than some men can offer, that’s not the way I determine a man’s value or worth. That’s not the way I determine anyone’s value or worth to be frank.

This know it all then proceeded to ask my friend if she was married and she too said no. He then said what’s wrong? You’re a beautiful black woman and not married? As he stood there 44 years old with no ring on his finger either by the way. Now after just speaking to him for the short time I did, I didn’t NEED to ask him why he’s single because his egotistical mentality already answered the question for me. To sum it up, he’ s a self-inflated ego having jerk who has to be-little and down grade others to compensate for his own short comings because he’s insecure and wants to feel important.


This guy obviously has issues and he has nothing better to do with his time than to try to make others feel bad.
In today’s world where women are available three to one man or higher, the fact that our selection of intelligent men are limited to those who are close-minded, self-centered and so busy analyzing all the females to the point of totally turning us off. This guy was literally pointing his finger at us as being the reason we’re both not married. There is no way it’s the men that’s the problem many times right? I personally can’t stand a know it all man who feels his way is always right and if you don’t agree YOU’RE the problem. This all started from my god son needing a simple haircut and me walking in with a beautiful a smile. Now who really has the problem me or him?


Now this isn’t for the men who know how to love and embrace a female and not appoint blame on her inability to fine a husband for whatever reason but this is for those guys who think they got all the answers just as single as ever themselves. It’s time to grow up and stop spreading the negative energy and degrading women. No I don’t have to settle and neither do you but if you share the same issues why not join forces with the female and together find that middle ground that might lead to a healthy fulfilling relationship. Stop being a freaking jerk already! No it’s NOT attractive!



Things men should never do:


1. Act like a know it all and be-little a females character because you think you can. I personally find it disturbing that a man would be ready to attack even perfectly innocent strangers to prove his immature point.

2. Asking why a female isn’t married and saying SHE has a problem when you aren’t even married yourself. Need I say more?

3. Asking a female on a date after you’ve just insulted her. Yes this jerk asked my friend out after he’d said she and I must have a problem and there must be something wrong with us since we aren’t married.

4. Be defensive instead of charming. How can you get a woman if you’re running them all away with attacks? Save the drama for your baby’s mama!

5. Have something to say to every female that crosses your path. Because of your need to feel important, you tend to throw things out there trying to make women feel uncomfortable and inadequate. This is more than likely because you and this phony confidence you try to display isn’t the real you. The real you actually feels uncomfortable and inadequate as well. Is there a reason you don’t ask the men in the barbershop why they aren’t married considering none of the four of you had wedding rings.

I just had to get this out. Thanks for stopping by.