Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Wondering If You Should Date Your Ex-boyfriend? Find Out Here!

I always enjoy chatting with Suzanne Oshima Matchmaker, Dating Coach, Author and Founder of @SingleStilettos it’s always nice to see how she views a topic in comparison to how I view it and todays topic is one that I'm sure many people question all the time. This topic never get's old...."Should I Date My Ex Again?"

In our most recent discussion on this topic, I share my tips on whether or not you should date your ex and what to consider if you are contemplating giving them another shot. 

There are many things to consider before going what I call "backwards." Such as
  • Why did you break up in the first place?
  • Are you truly healed from past issues that led to the break up?
  • Why do you want to date your ex again? Are you just lonely?
  • Was there abuse or drug usage that led to the break up? Are you ready to deal with that?
  • Did he cheat on you? 
Take a look at today’s video discussion and make sure if you're considering dating your ex you factor all these important steps into your decision. 
See for me I'm all about living a settle free dating life and making sure I don't re-create past drama that led me to be unhappy to begin with. I mean face it...We all sometimes wonder "What if he was the one?" And it’s okay to find out by possibly giving him another chance however there are pros and cons and if the cons out way the pros NEXT!!! You deserve the very best and there is a reason he's called your ex. Maybe he's just not the one for you. You should not go through life chasing someone who clearly doesn't know your worth.

 Enjoy the video and please leave your comments, I'd love to hear from you. 

Thursday, August 20, 2015

Cool interview about SettleFree dating/relationships with TV host Autumn Simmons on Talk Fuzion TV! #

Hi everyone, I hope you are living a settlefree life and just enjoying every minute of loving yourself and refusing to settle for less than you deserve! Enjoying time with yourself, learning more about who you are and what it is you really want for yourself. I had the opportunity to be invited for an online discussion on Talk Fusion TV with the lovely Host Autumn Simmons. She streamed me live here in the lovely Atlanta GA all the way from Philadelphia, PA.

Take a moment to look at our interview and I hope you enjoy it. I'm all about that settlefree life! It's so much easier when you simply eliminate the CRAP from your dating and relationship world and live the fun, loving , healthty life you were created to live! I don't know about many of you but I'm tired of all the bad excuses and bad behavior that seems to come with dating these days and my time is too valuable to waste it on foolery! It's time to wake up and STOP SETTLING!!

My question of the day is Would you sign a commitment contract, or do you prefer marraige? This is one of the topics discussed on the video. Enjoy!

Thursday, August 6, 2015

Short Film "And You Wanna See My Feet?" Produced By Tinzley Bradford #SettleFree Dating

Yay I produced my first short film! I'm super excited to share it with you and I hope you love it as much as I loved making it. I had the best time with the actors and the team over at Red Frog Studios creating this film. In this movie I give different scenarios of poor dating choices that women are many times faced with and many times settle for. The lovely actress in this film Lana Morris does a phenomenal job in portraying a no non-sense young lady who in the early stages of these different dating possibilities, she's like NEXT!!! This is the way that it should be when dating but the thing's not always that way! In an attempt to have a man, many women will just settle and things can many times go down hill from there. From putting your dreams on hold, to ending up in an abusive relationship! 

I'd love your feedback and your point of views on this subject matter. What does SettleFree Mean to you? Enjoy this film! 

All actors and participants are mentioned in the credits at the end of this trailer. Enjoy!

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Dear Future Get Over It!!

Dear #Future GET OVER IT!! I don't know the entire back story but all I can say is #Ciara is clearly moving on and so should you! If you were so concerned about the baby you would be very present in the cameras with him as #RussellWilson is. Who is stopping you from going to get him and spending daddy time with him? When Ciara was with you she was more than likely expected to play step mom to all four of your children by four different women btw.... Face it you had your chance and YOU blew it and she does NOT have to settle for that! Up here worrying about how it looks for another man to be in your sons life you weren't worried bout how it looked when you dipped! If Russell wants to be a positive role model to YOUR son I salute him for that! My father walked away from responsibility too so I have no mercy for you! Maybe you can use this as an opportunity to write a new song and call it Shoulda Coulda Woulda" Sucka!! #NEXT #SettleFree #Dating #Datingadvice #Love #Relationships #Datingtips #Babymama #Ciara #Future #RussellWilson #Singlemom #Single #Singlewomen #selflove #selfhelp #sellconfidence #babyFuture
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Thursday, July 30, 2015

Interview with Monica McLaurine, Author of "Becoming Comfortable In My Own Skin" "The Journey To Loving Me"

 "The Journey To Loving Me"

 Written By Tinzley Bradford  

© Monica McLaurine Used With Her Authorization

I'm sharing an interview I conducted with Author, Monica McLaurine not long ago. One of the most rewarding parts of being an Author is my ability to connect with other like-minded writers who are inspiring people all around the world and sharing their stories. I originally saw Monicas weight loss story on Instagram and immediately knew I had to speak further to her about her amazing and very inspirational  journey. See self-confidence is something I am constantly posting about because it is KEY to your desitination. If you lack it, it could cost you your future! I was recently chosen as one of the Key Speakers at the 2015 Confidence Boot Camp For Women I felt writing an article about self-esteem and learning to love the skin you're in is an ideal topic to share as there are so many insecure women out there who don't know where to start or how to start. 

Monica McLaurine has written her first published book, she shares her inspirational journey to becoming comfortable in her own skin, and living a healthier lifestyle. Her hope is to inspire others to live healthier, and be vigilant in their individual journeys.  Most of all, she aspires to ignite others to follow their dreams and position themselves to capture them. Here is her website Monica's Website


© Monica McLaurine Used With Her Authorization

A native of Nashville, Tennessee, Monica has a Bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice, with a concentration in Juvenile Justice from the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga.  In her spare time, Monica loves to spend time with family and friends, travel, exercise and shop.

Monicas says her goal is to equip others with information that will inspire you to pursue your dreams to the fullest.  If it is weight-loss, starting your own business or finally accomplishing your purpose in life, her desire is encourage you to do so. 

 Her goal is only to inspire and not judge. Join me as I explore Monica Maclaurine's Journey!

TB: What inspired you to write your book? Is this your first book? Who do you look up to?

MM: To be completely honest and not to be too churchy, while I was at church one day, I clearly heard God tell me to share my weight loss story.  Once I decided to be obedient, I started blogging about my weight loss journey.  Then after I received positive feedback and encouragement from others, I decided to release a book telling my complete journey in hopes to inspire others to live healthier inside and out. 

Yes this is my first book. 

Hmm, who do I look up to? That is a tough question. If I had to pick one person, I would say Iyanla Vanzant.  She, in my opinion, is the epitome of strength. Even after all of her ups and downs in her life, she uses her experiences to help others and that is what I aspire to do as well. 

TB: Tell us the story behind your book “Being Comfortable in My Own Skin?” You called it “The Journey to Loving Me.” Tell us more!

MM: I am sure you have heard the saying” A picture is worth a thousand words.” Well, one picture I took with some friends set off a chain of events that ignited a fire within me to start living a healthier lifestyle.  I had to accept that I, Monica needed to take control of my life and face the fact that I was the problem. I also share how I was determined to tackle some issues I had suppressed for years in order to become healthy on the inside as well. I have come to realize that you cannot heal/change what you don’t acknowledge. I had to learn to love myself unconditionally and take control of my own self-esteem. I couldn’t expect for anyone else to love me if I didn’t love myself.  Once I went through this process, I knew I was not the only one out there who felt like this.  I wanted to share my story to show others that if I can do it, you can do it too. 


TB:  Many people, women mostly find it hard to lose weight? How did you lose weight? 

MM: I worked out 5x a week (no excuses) and used to popular app myfitnesspal to help track my eating.  This app was crucial in helping me to watch my calories and monitor my eating.  I recommend it all the time.  Most of all, I had the desire to lose the weight. I was unhappy with what I saw in that photo and I was determined to get rid of the weight. I would often use excuses as to why I wasn’t working out or making better choices for food on a regular basis. Those excuses got me to the place where I was the heaviest in my entire life. I knew I was the only one who could change my situation and that is exactly what I did.  

© Monica McLaurine Used With Her Authorization

TB: Some men may be intimidated by a confident lady like you who has grown to love the skin she’s in and become a published author, how do you handle guys like this? 

MM: Lol, I have encountered this a time or two. I had to realize that I can only be who I am.  It took me years to finally love myself and I am not minimizing that for anyone anymore. I am the same person I have always been, I just don’t put up with some of the foolishness I used to deal with lol.  If they would take the time to get to know me, they will see I am the same fun- loving, faithful and humble person as before.

TB: What is the most important thing women should know about self-confidence?

MM: Learn that the most important part of self-confidence is “SELF”!  Often times we as women allow other to affect how we feel about ourselves.  We have to stop doing that to ourselves. People will always have something to say about you.  They talked about me when I was heavier and they talk about me now that I am smaller. We can’t always to please others.  Love yourself no matter what anyone else has to say.  Love yourself just the way you are.  If there is something you want to change about yourself, do it. But do it because you want to do and not because someone else says so. 

TB: Are you an Indie or a traditionally published author? 

MM: I self-published my first book under my company M Renee Enterprise Inc. 

TB: Are you in a relationship right now? Men chase beautiful, confident women like you down all the time? Did you notice any changes in how men approach you after losing weight? 

MM: No I am currently single and ready to mingle. I have gotten more attention now than I ever had in my whole life lol. I don’t really see a change in the way they approach me, there are just a few more men that are approaching me. 

TB: What are your goals now that you’re a published author?

MM: My next goal is to make a decision on which school I will enroll in to become a life coach. I am already a motivational speaker so I would like to add life coach to expand my brand.

TB: What does a settle-free dating life mean to you? I have to ask this question because I’m all about settle free.

MM: Settle-free dating life means to me that you set your qualities and/or characteristics you desire you mate to possess and you continue your pursuit until you find the mate who has those qualities/ characteristics.   

TB: Any plans to write a second book? What’s next for Monica?

MM: I actually am currently setting up my outline for me next book. I am very excited about this book.  My next book will be on bullying. This is an issue I am very passionate about and I would love to bring more awareness to this issue. 

TB: Do you have any upcoming speaking events scheduled? 

MM: I have a date I am working on in August and I will be speaking on October 10th. I am working on a couple of other speaking events in the near future so I will keep you posted!

TB: Who is your target audience and what are you hoping they get from your book? 

MM: My target audience is mainly women 14 and above. I also believe that men can benefit from my book as well. I hope they learn to love themselves unconditionally and believe in themselves. To be comfortable with themselves. I also want to inspire others to live healthier and not just to be skinny.  I want them to set goals for themselves and know they can be accomplished.   

TB: Where can people find you? Do you have a blog? What are your social media handles? Do you coach others and if so how can people sign up?

MM: I am very active in social media. I also have a blog on my website and share on all of my social media accounts. If anyone is interested in contacting me they can reach me on my website. 

Thank you so much Monica! Your story is very inspiring and I wish you the best of luck and success in all you're doing to share your message! You are a beautiful example for anyone trying to change their situation for the better. To reach Monica who is very active on many social media channels, see below and you can order her book directly from her website link provided below. Remember that in order for people to believe in you, YOU must first believe in YOU! Share Monica's story by posting it on your page. I'm certain it will change someones life somewhere. 


Facebook Fan Page: Author Monica McLaurine

Twitter: @MonicaMcLaurine

IG: @Monica_Mclaurine


© Monica McLaurine Used With Her Authorization
© Monica McLaurine Used With Her Authorization


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