Hold up wait a minute....Let me get this straight. I'm sexy, desirable, beautiful, sought after and intelligent so because of all I have going for me, I'm labled a slut or whore when a few relationships don't work???? Slut Shaming....What ashamed!
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Recently RHOA star Claudia Jordon took a stand against slut shaming and being called a whore by Ne Ne Leaks on #RHOA. In a recent interview on MadameNoire see her here Claudia Jordan On MadameNoire she stated and I quote “Women that do the most accusing of women being a slut or a whore are usually the biggest whores out there.” She went on to say that “ Whenever someone is losing an argument, it’s easier for them to just hit below the belt and just call the person a whore or slut without any proof, then it just sticks from there.” I must say I find credibility to her statement because it seems that women can be labeled as whatever a person’s perception of them is without them ever getting a chance to defend themselves. I say you’re a slut, so you must be a slut especially since I have a large following of people who believe I can do or say no wrong. That’s what I believe happened in this case. Ne Ne Leaks….Why did you call Claudia a Slut? What was this based off of? I’m interested in knowing and I’m certain thousands of people are interested in knowing as well. Was it hear say? Or facts? Let’s just say perception is NOT always reality no matter how many big wigs say it is!!
Recently Amber Rose also took a stand against slut shaming as well by saying she’s planning and organizing a #Slutwalk! This was due to the recent very public verbal attacks she received from her former boyfriend whom she says they were very much in love…. Kanye West! West stated after he’d been with Amber Rose he felt he had to take 30 showers. Amber of coarse fought back and threw some shots at Kim Kardashian Kanye’s wife in regards to her sex tape with singer and entertainer Ray J. My question is, if she was soooooo bad and discusting, Why Did Kanye West date her? I'll tell you why, it's because she's hot and that's what most men go for these days, the 'Hot girls!' Then later they blast them for being hot??? Dude what's YOUR problem??
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The Slutwalk didn’t start here I want to make that perfectly clear that Amber Rose is only hosting her own but the Slut Walk has been around for years and the purpose of it is to stop blaming women for being raped or miss treated simply because they dressed a certain way. Founded by Heather Jarvis and her friend Sonya Barnett her reason for starting this movement years ago she states in an older article from Huffington Post “We had just had enough,It isn't about just one idea or one police officer who practices victim blaming, it's about changing the system and doing something constructive with anger and frustration.” See article here Slut Walk Article on Huffington Post
So why is this? Why do you think it is that women get blamed and men get kudos when it comes to sex partners and /or the women’s track record in various partners? I mean we see it and hear it in today’s music all the time, how many women he slept with. How he be all up in that a—like bang bang bang!
He only wants a woman who is a freak then later on he comes back as Kanye did and slams her! Why is this? Would Kanye West had even looked at Amber Rose if she wasn’t drop dead gorgeous and attractive? Not to mention she’d already dated some pretty popular guys from Reggie Bush to Amar'e Stoudemire. You do the research….But so what? I always say dating is healthy so my question remains, what makes her a slut or whore because she’s dated multiple guys? Same thing for Claudia Jordan, she’s dated a few people as well but so what? Dating is just like the interview process when you’re seeking a job. The hiring manager interviews multiple candidates but only picks one. How can a woman date just one guy and only pick him if he’s NOT someone in which she has fallen for?
In my book the Settlefree Dating Method for Women, a Non Non-Sense Advice Guide to Remind You That You Are More!" My Book on Amazon I discuss women who date married men and in my opinion, unless a guy is comletely single no one should be dating a married man. Now I know love is where you find it but it should never be found in another womans husband. I won't lable it as slut behavior but I will say it's definitely different than simply having muliple boyfriends. In my book I also discuss how I use he NEXT strategy to eliminate the BS from the dating process. One quote is, " If he's not calling or texing you showing you he's interested...NEXT!!!" Well in my opinion, both Claudia and Amber have simply used the NEXT strategy because some where along the way the guys they have dated were NOT the chosen ones. No one should EVER settle for less than they deserve and because you're taking the time to find and pick a quality man does NOT make you a slut it makes you a woman who knows her worth!!!
I say do your thing ladies and keep on taking a stand for slut shaming. I've been taking a stand against men "but shaming" by wearing their pants sagging but we all see that's gotten no where and today, they are hanging even lower, but that's none of my business right? NEXT!!!! #SettleFree